My family thinks I shouldn’t be with my gf because of political views

Gf (20F) and I (19M) have been together close to 4 years now. And my whole family knows that. But just for more context basically my whole family is republican. My mother is nice and doesn’t care too much about my gfs political views both my mom and her bf are obviously republican but my gf and I are at my house often. And there’s usually no conflict in that regard. Although politics are often brought up even though they knows she’s democratic. We usually just kind of ignore it and let it go. And at this point they know we will probably get married at some point. Well flash forward to today at my family’s Christmas party (which my gf was not at) politics were brought up as they commonly are with my family. Then my gf was brought up by my mother saying how she’s liberal and my whole family got really surprised. (They’ve only met her once, and i don’t see them too often). And before all that was revealed they asked if i planned on getting married to her and i told them yes sometime in the future. So once they found that out they immediately said i should definitely start looking for someone else and i shouldn’t marry her. Some of them were even surprised i haven’t cheated on her yet just to give you an idea of how fucked up they are. So me being non confrontational and not wanting to deal with that shit at the time i just kinda let it go. But that really got to me. Thinking that your own family cares more about what your partners political views are and not the fact that we’re a happy couple who have already been together for 4 YEARS. So it’s safe to say for me if we plan on having an actual wedding none of them are invited. (We’ve been thinking about just doing a courthouse marriage since we both have pretty heavy schedules anyways).

TL;DR My family is all republican and my gf is democratic. And knowing that we’ve been together for 4 years they think we shouldn’t stay together.

As far as my views go I’m pretty open, I don’t currently identify with one or the other. Although I have gone from pretty republican to more central. But i won’t get into the details.

Submitted December 26, 2019 at 12:27AM

Gf (20F) and I (19M) have been together close to 4 years now. And my whole family knows that. But just for more context basically my whole family is republican. My mother is nice and doesn’t care too much about my gfs political views both my mom and her bf are obviously republican but my gf and I are at my house often. And there’s usually no conflict in that regard. Although politics are often brought up even though they knows she’s democratic. We usually just kind of ignore it and let it go. And at this point they know we will probably get married at some point. Well flash forward to today at my family’s Christmas party (which my gf was not at) politics were brought up as they commonly are with my family. Then my gf was brought up by my mother saying how she’s liberal and my whole family got really surprised. (They’ve only met her once, and i don’t see them too often). And before all that was revealed they asked if i planned on getting married to her and i told them yes sometime in the future. So once they found that out they immediately said i should definitely start looking for someone else and i shouldn’t marry her. Some of them were even surprised i haven’t cheated on her yet just to give you an idea of how fucked up they are. So me being non confrontational and not wanting to deal with that shit at the time i just kinda let it go. But that really got to me. Thinking that your own family cares more about what your partners political views are and not the fact that we’re a happy couple who have already been together for 4 YEARS. So it’s safe to say for me if we plan on having an actual wedding none of them are invited. (We’ve been thinking about just doing a courthouse marriage since we both have pretty heavy schedules anyways).TL;DR My family is all republican and my gf is democratic. And knowing that we’ve been together for 4 years they think we shouldn’t stay together.As far as my views go I’m pretty open, I don’t currently identify with one or the other. Although I have gone from pretty republican to more central. But i won’t get into the details.