Am I (29f) being too sensitive about my boyfriend (33m) criticizing my cooking but never helping?

Silly post. We've dated 3 years but never lived together until now. We got an apartment together first of March and now of course we are quarantining together.

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I have been looking for work since December (no luck yet). He was working but is now using holidays at his employer's request during isolation. So neither of us are working.

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I cook every day. I don't love cooking, but I just fell into the role (especially since he was working before and I wasn't). It doesn't come naturally to me so I'm always a bit insecure about the outcome. But I plan meals that I think he'll like and cook them (and it usually takes a while, so I'm putting effort into this).

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He does compliment some meals that he really likes. But my issue is this: anything he doesn't love, he criticizes...

- This looks pretty plain

- There isn't enough sauce on this

- This chicken is tough

Maybe I should be taking it as constructive criticism, but it hurts my feelings and makes me less interested in cooking for him. He basically does nothing (NOTHING) to help me. Just shows up when I tell him it's time to eat. And if he doesn't love what I've cooked, he won't even say thank you for dinner. Then he leaves the table and I clean up.

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I honestly don't mind this normally if he's working. But he's not. But he IS paying for our groceries. So am I being too sensitive in feeling hurt by all this? When we first started dating, we did cook in sometimes, and he always helped. It was a team effort. We shopped together, cooked together and cleaned up together.

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Maybe being cooped up is making me extra irritable. Opinions please!

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tldr: bf does nothing to help me with meals and often criticizes my cooking.



Submitted April 10, 2020 at 12:10AM

Silly post. We've dated 3 years but never lived together until now. We got an apartment together first of March and now of course we are quarantining together.​I have been looking for work since December (no luck yet). He was working but is now using holidays at his employer's request during isolation. So neither of us are working.​I cook every day. I don't love cooking, but I just fell into the role (especially since he was working before and I wasn't). It doesn't come naturally to me so I'm always a bit insecure about the outcome. But I plan meals that I think he'll like and cook them (and it usually takes a while, so I'm putting effort into this).​He does compliment some meals that he really likes. But my issue is this: anything he doesn't love, he criticizes...- This looks pretty plain- There isn't enough sauce on this- This chicken is toughMaybe I should be taking it as constructive criticism, but it hurts my feelings and makes me less interested in cooking for him. He basically does nothing (NOTHING) to help me. Just shows up when I tell him it's time to eat. And if he doesn't love what I've cooked, he won't even say thank you for dinner. Then he leaves the table and I clean up.​I honestly don't mind this normally if he's working. But he's not. But he IS paying for our groceries. So am I being too sensitive in feeling hurt by all this? When we first started dating, we did cook in sometimes, and he always helped. It was a team effort. We shopped together, cooked together and cleaned up together.​Maybe being cooped up is making me extra irritable. Opinions please!​tldr: bf does nothing to help me with meals and often criticizes my cooking.
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