Is he (32) not into me (f27) or is there a chance?

Firstly, I hate that I am even asking this, but I'm at a loss. I (F27) met a great guy (32) two months ago online. We really hit it off over text and went on 6 dates now over the course of two months. He has previously been very hurt in a relationship and still has some walls up, which he acknowledged, and said he wants to take it slow. He hates the idea that when you date someone, you essentially will either get married, or someone is getting hurt. I totally get it. We are both pretty busy people. He with a job and a side hustle, and me owning my own business. At times I have felt that he has put his to-do list above me, but then again, maybe I am expecting too much. Everyone seems to have a different answer.

On top of it all, his mom passed about 3 weeks ago. It's hard to determine whether he simply doesn't want to make the time for me because he doesn't like me enough, is emotionally unavailable (he said he was numb, and I hate to admit it but I'm like is it a way to let me off easy), or if it's just the wrong time for us. I know I shouldn't expect much of him at this time, but at the same time, I can't wait around forever. But on the other hand, I wonder if I'm supposed to walk through this time with him. He did say I could come to the funeral if I wanted, which I did, and has been a consistent texter the entire time.

We ended up talking because I felt he was losing interest, and he seemed confused as to what he wanted. He didn't feel peace ending it, but he also acknowledged that we were at a standstill, and he wasn't ready to make it official yet. He seemed pretty confused. I feel like I kind of pushed him to end it, or that is what he thought I wanted. At one point we thought maybe we will still see each other, but then he ended it. I've had bad experiences with people not feeling enough for me, but having a hard time letting go because they couldn't find much fault with me as a partner. We texted today because I needed some things cleared up, and he said he decided he didn't feel a strong urge to continue the relationship, and so, it's over =(

I know it's only been two months, but I am gutted as I saw this going somewhere. He is incredibly patient, gentle, non-judgmental, respectful, I can be myself, and we both are on the same page on so many things, from the amount of children we want, to politics, etc. I had a good feeling about it since the beginning, but I've been so wrong before so I guess I just shouldn't trust my own thoughts anymore. Thanks for reading this novel if you do. Hoped it would be different this time around.

TD;LR

Not sure if it's right person, bad timing or if he just really isn't into me.

Submitted November 11, 2021 at 12:03AM

Firstly, I hate that I am even asking this, but I'm at a loss. I (F27) met a great guy (32) two months ago online. We really hit it off over text and went on 6 dates now over the course of two months. He has previously been very hurt in a relationship and still has some walls up, which he acknowledged, and said he wants to take it slow. He hates the idea that when you date someone, you essentially will either get married, or someone is getting hurt. I totally get it. We are both pretty busy people. He with a job and a side hustle, and me owning my own business. At times I have felt that he has put his to-do list above me, but then again, maybe I am expecting too much. Everyone seems to have a different answer.On top of it all, his mom passed about 3 weeks ago. It's hard to determine whether he simply doesn't want to make the time for me because he doesn't like me enough, is emotionally unavailable (he said he was numb, and I hate to admit it but I'm like is it a way to let me off easy), or if it's just the wrong time for us. I know I shouldn't expect much of him at this time, but at the same time, I can't wait around forever. But on the other hand, I wonder if I'm supposed to walk through this time with him. He did say I could come to the funeral if I wanted, which I did, and has been a consistent texter the entire time.We ended up talking because I felt he was losing interest, and he seemed confused as to what he wanted. He didn't feel peace ending it, but he also acknowledged that we were at a standstill, and he wasn't ready to make it official yet. He seemed pretty confused. I feel like I kind of pushed him to end it, or that is what he thought I wanted. At one point we thought maybe we will still see each other, but then he ended it. I've had bad experiences with people not feeling enough for me, but having a hard time letting go because they couldn't find much fault with me as a partner. We texted today because I needed some things cleared up, and he said he decided he didn't feel a strong urge to continue the relationship, and so, it's over =(I know it's only been two months, but I am gutted as I saw this going somewhere. He is incredibly patient, gentle, non-judgmental, respectful, I can be myself, and we both are on the same page on so many things, from the amount of children we want, to politics, etc. I had a good feeling about it since the beginning, but I've been so wrong before so I guess I just shouldn't trust my own thoughts anymore. Thanks for reading this novel if you do. Hoped it would be different this time around.TD;LRNot sure if it's right person, bad timing or if he just really isn't into me.