My (13F) brother (21M) became really conservative and religious in a bad way when he left for College and won't talk to my sister (19F) and he's being really mean to me too but I'm worried if I tell my family they'll stop talking to him again

My family is Jewish and our religion is always important to us but I don't think this isn't really bc of that I don't think bc my family and everyone else I know are really good and accepting of other religions and everyone. the town I live in is almost all Christian and they are the same and no one at my school cares about me being a different religion.

And but my brother became really conservative and religious in a bad way when he went to college. And like that's all he ever talks about now. And always argues with are parent about it like whenever he comes home and made them really angry because he's turned it into something really hateful and won't even go with us to are temple anymore bc of them teaching reformed Judaism and them doing interfaith weddings and being okay with gay marriage and a bunch of other stuff that shouldn't matter.

But since he came home from COVID/summer break he's gotten better I thought like he stopped talking with my parents about this stuff bc it would just make everyone angry When he came home again he's been really nosey at me about whenever I would go to my friends. And last night I went over to a boys house I really like, and I told my parents I was going to my friends house and I know it's really wrong to lie, but I'm just really shy and embarrassed talking about liking a boy and we just watched movies together and his parents were there too.

But this morning when my parents went grocery shopping my brother came in and took my phone when I was in the shower, so I couldn't do anything and looked at my messages with him. And like got more angry than I've ever seen him and I promise that we weren't saying anything bad. like there was a picture that we took in one of those stupid photo booths in the mall where I kissed his cheek but that's the worst thing. But he like screamed at me while grabbedd my cheeks shut and slapped me really hard like it cut the inside of my cheek on my tooth and my mouth was bleeding and my left eye went stary. And also deleted the boy I likes number and all the pictures and messages I had with him and I know it sounds dumb but those were really special to me because I really really like him since like elementary school. And he said that he made it so everything I do on my new phone my parents just got me will be sent to his phone. Idk if that's real but I'm scared to use it now...

And I am scared of him but, my parents already didn't let him come home during winter break because my sister and her boyfriend were coming and he was already saying really mean things and got into a fight with them about her dating someone who's a diffrent religion than us. And my family isn't like that. But I don't want them to find out I was lying about seeing a boy and he sent the picture to himself and if I tell he will show them I think and I know you think I'm probably lying but I really didn't kiss him on the mouth or send him anything really bad, but it's still embarrassing to me I guess.... And our family used to be really close and I'm the one who told them he should get to come back and I dont want to lose my brother or make it so he can't come home bc my sister already won't talk with him anymore.

Tl;dr My brother is being really mean to me but I'm scared to tell because my parents won't talk to him anymore again And but I don't want to be hit and called names like that either.

Submitted August 24, 2020 at 12:20AM

My family is Jewish and our religion is always important to us but I don't think this isn't really bc of that I don't think bc my family and everyone else I know are really good and accepting of other religions and everyone. the town I live in is almost all Christian and they are the same and no one at my school cares about me being a different religion.And but my brother became really conservative and religious in a bad way when he went to college. And like that's all he ever talks about now. And always argues with are parent about it like whenever he comes home and made them really angry because he's turned it into something really hateful and won't even go with us to are temple anymore bc of them teaching reformed Judaism and them doing interfaith weddings and being okay with gay marriage and a bunch of other stuff that shouldn't matter.But since he came home from COVID/summer break he's gotten better I thought like he stopped talking with my parents about this stuff bc it would just make everyone angry When he came home again he's been really nosey at me about whenever I would go to my friends. And last night I went over to a boys house I really like, and I told my parents I was going to my friends house and I know it's really wrong to lie, but I'm just really shy and embarrassed talking about liking a boy and we just watched movies together and his parents were there too.But this morning when my parents went grocery shopping my brother came in and took my phone when I was in the shower, so I couldn't do anything and looked at my messages with him. And like got more angry than I've ever seen him and I promise that we weren't saying anything bad. like there was a picture that we took in one of those stupid photo booths in the mall where I kissed his cheek but that's the worst thing. But he like screamed at me while grabbedd my cheeks shut and slapped me really hard like it cut the inside of my cheek on my tooth and my mouth was bleeding and my left eye went stary. And also deleted the boy I likes number and all the pictures and messages I had with him and I know it sounds dumb but those were really special to me because I really really like him since like elementary school. And he said that he made it so everything I do on my new phone my parents just got me will be sent to his phone. Idk if that's real but I'm scared to use it now...And I am scared of him but, my parents already didn't let him come home during winter break because my sister and her boyfriend were coming and he was already saying really mean things and got into a fight with them about her dating someone who's a diffrent religion than us. And my family isn't like that. But I don't want them to find out I was lying about seeing a boy and he sent the picture to himself and if I tell he will show them I think and I know you think I'm probably lying but I really didn't kiss him on the mouth or send him anything really bad, but it's still embarrassing to me I guess.... And our family used to be really close and I'm the one who told them he should get to come back and I dont want to lose my brother or make it so he can't come home bc my sister already won't talk with him anymore.Tl;dr My brother is being really mean to me but I'm scared to tell because my parents won't talk to him anymore again And but I don't want to be hit and called names like that either.