Need help with reading my boyfriends mind...

I just recently made an account, have been reading the thread but not posting.

I (23F) and my boyfriend (25m) are having problems. He is really nice to me and super funny and I do like him. I have never gotten along with someone so well and have never met a person as funny as him. We are both the same race but he clearly had a Latina fetish. Between his porn preferences, his history of fucking a Colombian prostitute, and an ex girlfriend/multiple hookups it’s very evident to me I am not his type. He has criticized the way I look in the past but attributes it to being insecure. These comments were made over a year ago and since then he has been very kind to me. I am aware he was trying hard to put on a facade when we first started dating and wanted to come across as tough and has since changed. Apparently i was cold to him when we started seeing each other and he felt he had to bring me down. He hasn’t made any comments in the recent past but instead I find myself getting mad over comments he made a year ago and picking fights. I don’t feel confident and secure about myself in the relationship and don’t know if I am blowing things out of proportion or if I am the “ugly safe girl”. I don’t want to be in a relationship ship where I am not one he is attracted to or has to fake attraction to and I know I am. I also am having a really hard time coming around to the fact he fucked a prostitute twice (two different ones) I find it so disgusting and never thought I would interact with someone who has done that. In my history I have never encountered a man who has done it and it really disturbs me. It happened more than a year before we met but I still hate it. Should I let things go and come around to accept this disgusting story?

I also am not satisfied with the answer that men can have fetishes but also be attracted to me. I’d rather be my boyfriends fetish than not. Please help :/

TL;DR not my boyfriends type and can’t get over past comments and actions even though love him a lot.



Submitted August 24, 2020 at 12:20AM

I just recently made an account, have been reading the thread but not posting.I (23F) and my boyfriend (25m) are having problems. He is really nice to me and super funny and I do like him. I have never gotten along with someone so well and have never met a person as funny as him. We are both the same race but he clearly had a Latina fetish. Between his porn preferences, his history of fucking a Colombian prostitute, and an ex girlfriend/multiple hookups it’s very evident to me I am not his type. He has criticized the way I look in the past but attributes it to being insecure. These comments were made over a year ago and since then he has been very kind to me. I am aware he was trying hard to put on a facade when we first started dating and wanted to come across as tough and has since changed. Apparently i was cold to him when we started seeing each other and he felt he had to bring me down. He hasn’t made any comments in the recent past but instead I find myself getting mad over comments he made a year ago and picking fights. I don’t feel confident and secure about myself in the relationship and don’t know if I am blowing things out of proportion or if I am the “ugly safe girl”. I don’t want to be in a relationship ship where I am not one he is attracted to or has to fake attraction to and I know I am. I also am having a really hard time coming around to the fact he fucked a prostitute twice (two different ones) I find it so disgusting and never thought I would interact with someone who has done that. In my history I have never encountered a man who has done it and it really disturbs me. It happened more than a year before we met but I still hate it. Should I let things go and come around to accept this disgusting story?I also am not satisfied with the answer that men can have fetishes but also be attracted to me. I’d rather be my boyfriends fetish than not. Please help :/TL;DR not my boyfriends type and can’t get over past comments and actions even though love him a lot.
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