My (21M) gaming group had a large rift develop between several members and other one member

I am in a gaming group for this one shooter game which relies heavily on teamwork. This one guy who is probably 12 years old started a voice chat server designed for people who are in a bad part of the game to "rank up" to play against better teams. There is a group of 5 people, including me, who are regularly playing together on this voice chat server. The team size in this game is 5 and you really need 5 players working together effectively to do well. So in this way it is similar to a sport (soccer, basketball, etc) except as a video game.

(All group members are male, between 10-40)

The guy who started the voice chat server, his fake name is Billy, is very emotionally immature. If someone criticizes a specific move he did, he will have to point out some mistake they made to feel better about himself. In addition he is nagging the more skilled members of the group to "carry" him (meaning have the better players basically do all the work) but they don't want to do this because it is considered unsportsmanlike.

Whenever someone has good advice on changes to the voice chat server, he will say "this is just how I do things, I run this server". This angered our best team member, let's call him Stu, into quitting the game for a while.

In addition Billy will brag a shit ton whenever he gets enough kills (which is an important part of this video game) and then say he is as good as the other players, when he is easily the worst. There are 74 characters in the game, and Billy doesn't really know how to use any of them, whereas the rest of us know more or less how to use at least 37 of them.

Billy will obsess about one very specific aspect of the game, try to master it, and then nag everyone during the game to play perfectly at that one specific aspect of the game. Without getting into the game specifics, if we were a band, this guy would be like a drummer who is off beat: his errors fuck up everything the rest of we do.

I was thinking that I might have to try to get the other members to leave the voice chat server and have us start a new one without Billy, because Billy is the worst player objectively and because he is just annoying to deal with. Then the other members especially Stu got in a fight with Billy and I am thinking, should I leave the voice chat server for good?

TL:DR little boy is in charge of our gaming group, the other 4 of us are thinking about cutting it off.

Submitted April 12, 2020 at 12:01AM

I am in a gaming group for this one shooter game which relies heavily on teamwork. This one guy who is probably 12 years old started a voice chat server designed for people who are in a bad part of the game to "rank up" to play against better teams. There is a group of 5 people, including me, who are regularly playing together on this voice chat server. The team size in this game is 5 and you really need 5 players working together effectively to do well. So in this way it is similar to a sport (soccer, basketball, etc) except as a video game.(All group members are male, between 10-40)The guy who started the voice chat server, his fake name is Billy, is very emotionally immature. If someone criticizes a specific move he did, he will have to point out some mistake they made to feel better about himself. In addition he is nagging the more skilled members of the group to "carry" him (meaning have the better players basically do all the work) but they don't want to do this because it is considered unsportsmanlike.Whenever someone has good advice on changes to the voice chat server, he will say "this is just how I do things, I run this server". This angered our best team member, let's call him Stu, into quitting the game for a while.In addition Billy will brag a shit ton whenever he gets enough kills (which is an important part of this video game) and then say he is as good as the other players, when he is easily the worst. There are 74 characters in the game, and Billy doesn't really know how to use any of them, whereas the rest of us know more or less how to use at least 37 of them.Billy will obsess about one very specific aspect of the game, try to master it, and then nag everyone during the game to play perfectly at that one specific aspect of the game. Without getting into the game specifics, if we were a band, this guy would be like a drummer who is off beat: his errors fuck up everything the rest of we do.I was thinking that I might have to try to get the other members to leave the voice chat server and have us start a new one without Billy, because Billy is the worst player objectively and because he is just annoying to deal with. Then the other members especially Stu got in a fight with Billy and I am thinking, should I leave the voice chat server for good?TL:DR little boy is in charge of our gaming group, the other 4 of us are thinking about cutting it off.