My (25m) GF (24f) of 4 years has an onlyfans and there's waaay more on it than she told me there was. Help!

I wasn't really sure how to phrase that title it's really a bizarre situation. My girlfriend and I live together, have been together for going on four years. She's a stripper. Has been for about two years. It's definitely been a strain on our relationship, and it caused some problems in the past but we've set down firm boundaries and I have my limits and we're both aware of these things (no physical contact, no contact with customers outside work being the big two.). Her club is non-nude, pasties and panties, and non-contact (state laws regarding these clubs here are really weird and full of strange requirements but in our case it worked out in my favor lol). And for the most part I've had no issues. She's not giving lapdances, I know all her coworkers, the bouncers seem like good guys so it's a relatively safe environment, it's been alright.

But then, y'know, covid. All the clubs are shut down. All the girls are scrambling to find ways to make money and a bunch of them set up onlyfans. GF and I discussed this, trying to decide if we were both comfortable with it. I really appreciated the communication. We set up some ground rules and both seemed happy with it. She told me she didn't want to do anything more than softcore photos. She occasionally does some modeling with one of her coworkers on the side, lingerie shoots and that kind of thing. She told me she'd just post photos from those sets. With that decision I was pretty comfortable and she seemed excited too. Also no videos, nothing she'd sent ME (i didn't want other guys getting the stuff she took for me it seemed like a weird breach of intimacy), and no custom requests.

Well she left it up on her computer the other day and my curiosity got the better of me. Which is know is nasty and snoopy and I already feel like a jerk about it but it was literally open to the page on her monitor and the post showed a play button.

Turns out she's not just posting the lingerie shoots. She's taking full nude videos, 2+ minutes long of her dancing, spreading for the camera, and rolling around on the ground. Also taking custom requests, fully nude and spread out on our bed. On top of that one of the guys she's taking requests for is one of her regulars from the club. Also QUITE a few of the pictures she'd taken "just for me" that I have saved on MY PHONE.

She's been away for a couple days, she's visiting family to try to help her dad during all this craziness. I'm having a very, very hard time processing this. Before she left I asked her about it. Asked her how it was going, she said she'd made some money. "Nice! No videos though, right? None of the stuff you've sent me? Just the shoots?" And she didn't even flinch just lied to my face and told me yes.

I definitely have a pit in my stomach over this. What do I do? I love this girl, and have always trusted her immensely this is the first time she's ever given me REAL reason to doubt her on this. Even in regards to her job she was always totally open and communicative and checking to make sure I was comfortable with new developments or whatever. This is a lot.

TLDR; GF ignoring boundaries with her job, her onlyfans, and my limits regarding both. Blatantly lying to me about it. Help?

Submitted April 12, 2020 at 12:00AM

I wasn't really sure how to phrase that title it's really a bizarre situation. My girlfriend and I live together, have been together for going on four years. She's a stripper. Has been for about two years. It's definitely been a strain on our relationship, and it caused some problems in the past but we've set down firm boundaries and I have my limits and we're both aware of these things (no physical contact, no contact with customers outside work being the big two.). Her club is non-nude, pasties and panties, and non-contact (state laws regarding these clubs here are really weird and full of strange requirements but in our case it worked out in my favor lol). And for the most part I've had no issues. She's not giving lapdances, I know all her coworkers, the bouncers seem like good guys so it's a relatively safe environment, it's been alright.But then, y'know, covid. All the clubs are shut down. All the girls are scrambling to find ways to make money and a bunch of them set up onlyfans. GF and I discussed this, trying to decide if we were both comfortable with it. I really appreciated the communication. We set up some ground rules and both seemed happy with it. She told me she didn't want to do anything more than softcore photos. She occasionally does some modeling with one of her coworkers on the side, lingerie shoots and that kind of thing. She told me she'd just post photos from those sets. With that decision I was pretty comfortable and she seemed excited too. Also no videos, nothing she'd sent ME (i didn't want other guys getting the stuff she took for me it seemed like a weird breach of intimacy), and no custom requests.Well she left it up on her computer the other day and my curiosity got the better of me. Which is know is nasty and snoopy and I already feel like a jerk about it but it was literally open to the page on her monitor and the post showed a play button.Turns out she's not just posting the lingerie shoots. She's taking full nude videos, 2+ minutes long of her dancing, spreading for the camera, and rolling around on the ground. Also taking custom requests, fully nude and spread out on our bed. On top of that one of the guys she's taking requests for is one of her regulars from the club. Also QUITE a few of the pictures she'd taken "just for me" that I have saved on MY PHONE.She's been away for a couple days, she's visiting family to try to help her dad during all this craziness. I'm having a very, very hard time processing this. Before she left I asked her about it. Asked her how it was going, she said she'd made some money. "Nice! No videos though, right? None of the stuff you've sent me? Just the shoots?" And she didn't even flinch just lied to my face and told me yes.I definitely have a pit in my stomach over this. What do I do? I love this girl, and have always trusted her immensely this is the first time she's ever given me REAL reason to doubt her on this. Even in regards to her job she was always totally open and communicative and checking to make sure I was comfortable with new developments or whatever. This is a lot.TLDR; GF ignoring boundaries with her job, her onlyfans, and my limits regarding both. Blatantly lying to me about it. Help?