A woman(20f) told me(21m) I stop should texting and/or flirting with women around my age because I look 30, I told her I'm not 30 and she called me a catfish.

First off I want to clarify that I do see myself as attractive, and I usually get told that I look older than my age, around 22-24. But what I don't want is to make people uncomfortable thinking they might see me as a 30-year-old pervert trying to smooth talk his way with 20-year-old girls.

This was my first time thinking this might ever be a possibility, cause usually women actually like men above their age, so I always took it as a compliment when people said that I look older than my age.

So I would just like some anonymous advice, should I take what this one person told me to heart? Is it not a compliment when people tell you that you look older than you age? Thx in advance

Submitted October 22, 2021 at 12:01AM

First off I want to clarify that I do see myself as attractive, and I usually get told that I look older than my age, around 22-24. But what I don't want is to make people uncomfortable thinking they might see me as a 30-year-old pervert trying to smooth talk his way with 20-year-old girls.This was my first time thinking this might ever be a possibility, cause usually women actually like men above their age, so I always took it as a compliment when people said that I look older than my age.So I would just like some anonymous advice, should I take what this one person told me to heart? Is it not a compliment when people tell you that you look older than you age? Thx in advance