Is my [22M] friend [21F] pushing me away because of depression or because she doesn't like me?

Hey everyone,

Around a couple weeks ago, I met this beautiful and amazing woman and I started talking to her. We bonded.. and VERY QUICKLY. I'm talking about we'd be on the phone everyday after work, watch videos together, talking about us as a relationship, meeting her parents/mine, etc. The whole package! She told me she never got that happy with someone else and never felt so synced with someone else. So we decided to meet up, and we did. She doesn't live too far away from me (1h30-2h00 car trip) so I drove to see her and it was great the first night.. we slept together and it was passionate.

However, the next day.. she was feeling odd.. I felt some weird vibes coming off her as if I fucked up or did something wrong or anything.. so I played it off cool, but I felt like she wasn't really feeling it anymore. Anyways, I drove back to my place later that night and she started sending me texts saying stuff like thanking me for coming down to visit her, that I am the most amazing guy she has ever met/been with, made her feel loved, somehow found herself missing her ex, that she wasn't ready for a relationship to which I asked if there was something wrong that happened when I was there. She started talking about how she didn't feel any chemistry when I was w her and then starts telling me about how she's not in a good spot right now struggling with her depression and how it's pretty bad. So I told her that it's fine and that I am always here for her if she wants to reach out. She then told me she doesn't know how to deal with all these things and would like to have some space until she feels better. She kept saying how she is sad and wish it wasn't like that, and that she will reach out to me once she's dealt with all these things. She said she'd start therapy to get herself back to a place where she'd be happy by herself which is incredibly great.

We both obviously have feelings for each other and obviously, her mental health is the priority here and since I've never dealt with depression I wanted to ask you guys for guidance. As I respect her, I will not be contacting her until she reaches out but..

I clearly have feelings for her.. am I supposed to wait for her to feel better? If so, how long should I be waiting..? Or should I completely move on?

Is it possible that after she gets better, her feelings towards me change where she initially only had feelings for me because of her state of mind?

TL;DR - Met a wonderful girl, was going to make our relationship official but she started feeling weird and pushed me away so she could work on herself and will reach out when she's done so. What am I supposed to do..? Wait or move on?

Thank you very much

Submitted July 29, 2019 at 11:16PM

Hey everyone,Around a couple weeks ago, I met this beautiful and amazing woman and I started talking to her. We bonded.. and VERY QUICKLY. I'm talking about we'd be on the phone everyday after work, watch videos together, talking about us as a relationship, meeting her parents/mine, etc. The whole package! She told me she never got that happy with someone else and never felt so synced with someone else. So we decided to meet up, and we did. She doesn't live too far away from me (1h30-2h00 car trip) so I drove to see her and it was great the first night.. we slept together and it was passionate.However, the next day.. she was feeling odd.. I felt some weird vibes coming off her as if I fucked up or did something wrong or anything.. so I played it off cool, but I felt like she wasn't really feeling it anymore. Anyways, I drove back to my place later that night and she started sending me texts saying stuff like thanking me for coming down to visit her, that I am the most amazing guy she has ever met/been with, made her feel loved, somehow found herself missing her ex, that she wasn't ready for a relationship to which I asked if there was something wrong that happened when I was there. She started talking about how she didn't feel any chemistry when I was w her and then starts telling me about how she's not in a good spot right now struggling with her depression and how it's pretty bad. So I told her that it's fine and that I am always here for her if she wants to reach out. She then told me she doesn't know how to deal with all these things and would like to have some space until she feels better. She kept saying how she is sad and wish it wasn't like that, and that she will reach out to me once she's dealt with all these things. She said she'd start therapy to get herself back to a place where she'd be happy by herself which is incredibly great.We both obviously have feelings for each other and obviously, her mental health is the priority here and since I've never dealt with depression I wanted to ask you guys for guidance. As I respect her, I will not be contacting her until she reaches out but..I clearly have feelings for her.. am I supposed to wait for her to feel better? If so, how long should I be waiting..? Or should I completely move on?Is it possible that after she gets better, her feelings towards me change where she initially only had feelings for me because of her state of mind?TL;DR - Met a wonderful girl, was going to make our relationship official but she started feeling weird and pushed me away so she could work on herself and will reach out when she's done so. What am I supposed to do..? Wait or move on?Thank you very much