Is my (23f) relationship (23m) worth it?

Very long story short: have been dating my long distance bf for over a year. We talked/hooked up for a year prior to becoming official. A few weeks before we did become official he“ dated” a girl for a few weeks. Possibly to spite me at the time, i didnt want to be exclusive and long distance at the time. Fast forward a year: we were hanging out and I saw that he was dming her on insta. Caved and read it. He was very friendly but not flirty. Confronted him, he apologized, was doing it to annoy her. Still, this made her even more uncomfortable subject. Soon after this drama, one of his best friends started becoming extremely close with this girl... Now i just found out that shes moving in with her next month. So a lot of the time he hangs out with her, this girl will be there. Not sure if theres anything i can do about this, and i dont know if i want to spend my senior year of college stressing out about my bf having fun with these girls while im working.... they have hung out in group settings in the past, since theyre friends with a lot of the same people. (this made me v uncomfy) 9 Always made me uncomfortable. I knowit will happen a lot more now that shes living with one of his closest friends.... I know that he won’t cheat, I’m just uncomfortable with the situation. I mean nobody would like their significant other spending time with someone like this.

The female friend always seemed to be one of his most sensible friends, and I really liked her. But I have also heard stories of her getting extremely jealous of his girlfriends and trying to sabotage things in the past so I can’t help but wonder... she did say very mean things about me before she met me, but has been super nice since so idk...

Tl;dr: my long distance bf (23m) surrounds himself with people who make me uncomfortable. Not sure if it’s worth continuing/if there’s anything I can do



Submitted July 29, 2019 at 11:21PM

Very long story short: have been dating my long distance bf for over a year. We talked/hooked up for a year prior to becoming official. A few weeks before we did become official he“ dated” a girl for a few weeks. Possibly to spite me at the time, i didnt want to be exclusive and long distance at the time. Fast forward a year: we were hanging out and I saw that he was dming her on insta. Caved and read it. He was very friendly but not flirty. Confronted him, he apologized, was doing it to annoy her. Still, this made her even more uncomfortable subject. Soon after this drama, one of his best friends started becoming extremely close with this girl... Now i just found out that shes moving in with her next month. So a lot of the time he hangs out with her, this girl will be there. Not sure if theres anything i can do about this, and i dont know if i want to spend my senior year of college stressing out about my bf having fun with these girls while im working.... they have hung out in group settings in the past, since theyre friends with a lot of the same people. (this made me v uncomfy) 9 Always made me uncomfortable. I knowit will happen a lot more now that shes living with one of his closest friends.... I know that he won’t cheat, I’m just uncomfortable with the situation. I mean nobody would like their significant other spending time with someone like this.The female friend always seemed to be one of his most sensible friends, and I really liked her. But I have also heard stories of her getting extremely jealous of his girlfriends and trying to sabotage things in the past so I can’t help but wonder... she did say very mean things about me before she met me, but has been super nice since so idk...Tl;dr: my long distance bf (23m) surrounds himself with people who make me uncomfortable. Not sure if it’s worth continuing/if there’s anything I can do
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