Is this considered normal these days?

My (28f) husband (35m), in six days, has had over 1.75 liters of whiskey. At home. Most of it after I go to bed.

That’s over 40 shots.

This is a regular occurrence.

When I bring it up, he either says “oh wow, yeah that’s a lot” and drinks water for a day or two or “get off my ass.”

Sometimes I can tell he’s drunk, as he’ll get pretty mean. But most of the time, he doesn’t seem too drunk. Which, I think, means he holds it well. And that’s not a good thing.

He’s admitted to a problem in the past. He stopped drinking for maybe two weeks. Most of the time, he tells me I just have an issue with alcohol (my dad is an alcoholic).

I don’t have an issue with alcohol. I’ll drink maybe one or two drinks a week. I just have an issue with alcohol being an issue.

Is 1.75 liters a week an issue? Drinking is so popular now, it seems like most people drink more than they technically should. I’ve read posts of people drinking a handle a week.

Should I just get off his ass? Am I being controlling? Or should I try to help? I’ve tried being super nice, and I’ve tried being mean and stern about it. Nothing works.

TL;dr: husband drinks over 1.75 liters a week. I’m worried about him.

Update: we got into an argument about sex (so stupid...he keeps making me feel guilty for not having sex...we have plenty of sex) and I said, “we can’t have this conversation when you’ve had five drinks.” He says, “this isn’t nearly enough to put up with your bullshit.”

Submitted May 19, 2019 at 10:31PM

My (28f) husband (35m), in six days, has had over 1.75 liters of whiskey. At home. Most of it after I go to bed.That’s over 40 shots.This is a regular occurrence.When I bring it up, he either says “oh wow, yeah that’s a lot” and drinks water for a day or two or “get off my ass.”Sometimes I can tell he’s drunk, as he’ll get pretty mean. But most of the time, he doesn’t seem too drunk. Which, I think, means he holds it well. And that’s not a good thing.He’s admitted to a problem in the past. He stopped drinking for maybe two weeks. Most of the time, he tells me I just have an issue with alcohol (my dad is an alcoholic).I don’t have an issue with alcohol. I’ll drink maybe one or two drinks a week. I just have an issue with alcohol being an issue.Is 1.75 liters a week an issue? Drinking is so popular now, it seems like most people drink more than they technically should. I’ve read posts of people drinking a handle a week.Should I just get off his ass? Am I being controlling? Or should I try to help? I’ve tried being super nice, and I’ve tried being mean and stern about it. Nothing works.TL;dr: husband drinks over 1.75 liters a week. I’m worried about him.Update: we got into an argument about sex (so stupid...he keeps making me feel guilty for not having sex...we have plenty of sex) and I said, “we can’t have this conversation when you’ve had five drinks.” He says, “this isn’t nearly enough to put up with your bullshit.”