My [29M] with my OkCupid date [22F] mislead me about having kids and I have no idea what to do

I went on my first date since 2012 last night. I'm chronically single since 2009 and super desperate. I had a lot in common with this girl, and we had very deep and genuine conversation and just clicked in so many ways. It was originally just suppose to be a coffee date, but we ended up going for a walk in the park, and then getting dinner at a fancy restaurant. Then she came to my place and we continued our deep conversations and we did end up having sex. I never thought I would have sex on a first date, especially since it was my first time since 2009. Our connection just seemed so deep and it happened.

Fast forward to today, I text her and say I want to see her again tonight. She just casually mentions that she needs to find a babysitter. I have not texted her since and am just thinking WTF. She did not answer the do you have children on her OkCupid profile, but I think she should have mentioned during our conversations, especially given the deep nature of them. I also answered the question on OkCupid about would you date someone who has kids as no, and it was something we both marked unacceptable.

At this point, I just don't know what to do. I'm depressed and incredibly lonely. I have no self confidence at all when it comes to dating, and suddenly, this hot girl is in to me despite the fact I am 5'11 and about 215 pounds.

I also feel used and like a cheap whore. Like I seriously never thought I would sleep with someone until we had a meaningful committed relationship I kind of feel taken advantage of. At the same time though I totally enjoyed my time with her, I am so tired of being lonlenly and not having any kind of intimate relationship where I can just talk about my day to someone who cares, or be held, do something for them, have them do stuff for me. I'm running full of emotions now and very confused.

TL;DR Girl mislead me into thinking she didn't have kids via her online dating profile. Turns out she does and I have no idea what to do.



Submitted May 19, 2019 at 10:44PM

I went on my first date since 2012 last night. I'm chronically single since 2009 and super desperate. I had a lot in common with this girl, and we had very deep and genuine conversation and just clicked in so many ways. It was originally just suppose to be a coffee date, but we ended up going for a walk in the park, and then getting dinner at a fancy restaurant. Then she came to my place and we continued our deep conversations and we did end up having sex. I never thought I would have sex on a first date, especially since it was my first time since 2009. Our connection just seemed so deep and it happened.Fast forward to today, I text her and say I want to see her again tonight. She just casually mentions that she needs to find a babysitter. I have not texted her since and am just thinking WTF. She did not answer the do you have children on her OkCupid profile, but I think she should have mentioned during our conversations, especially given the deep nature of them. I also answered the question on OkCupid about would you date someone who has kids as no, and it was something we both marked unacceptable.At this point, I just don't know what to do. I'm depressed and incredibly lonely. I have no self confidence at all when it comes to dating, and suddenly, this hot girl is in to me despite the fact I am 5'11 and about 215 pounds.I also feel used and like a cheap whore. Like I seriously never thought I would sleep with someone until we had a meaningful committed relationship I kind of feel taken advantage of. At the same time though I totally enjoyed my time with her, I am so tired of being lonlenly and not having any kind of intimate relationship where I can just talk about my day to someone who cares, or be held, do something for them, have them do stuff for me. I'm running full of emotions now and very confused.TL;DR Girl mislead me into thinking she didn't have kids via her online dating profile. Turns out she does and I have no idea what to do.
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Add Comments, Posts, Links... etc.

Popular posts from this blog

The difference between being right and being understood

My boyfriend and I are 28. We’ve been together for about 1.5 years and recently moved in together. He’s a pretty patient and easygoing person (Type B) whereas I’m more particular (Type A). Of course there are two sides to every trait, and my Type A nature benefits us in some ways too. Like all couples, we have differences in perspective or preference. When this happens, he will usually say something like “I disagree (with your perspective) but fine.” I tend to push the issue in an attempt to get him to understand where I’m coming from. This escalates the disagreement into a fight because he perceives it as me trying to be “right”. I truly just want to be understood (and I want to understand where he’s coming from) so I’m looking for more of a dialogue whereas he avoids conflict and just wants it to be over as quickly as possible. His general approach is “agree to disagree” but that doesn’t make sense to me when it’s an issue that will keep coming up and requires compromise. I’m n...
Read more

My (27f) gf (27f) is getting tired of me not sharing intimate/ personal info about me

I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love with her, however I can not seem to open up... and I can tell it’s frustrating to her by the way she tells me it bothers her that she feels she’s the only one committed and the one that’s always sharing... At this point I don’t even know if it is that I’ve gotten too used to it, to the point I’ve became lazy to talk about myself or give any genuine personal opinion... it sucks, really, I need to communicate better... Where do I start? Tl;dr: I can’t be completely intimate with my gf and its frustrating her, I need to communicate better because I really love her... where to start? Submitted April 25, 2019 at 06:02AM I’ve always been extremely private and introverted. We have more than a year together and we’ve been living together for like 6 months, we get along pretty good and I’m really in love ...
Read more

My (23M) girlfriend (25F) relationship is confusing to me. I might be the problem, or maybe we are just incompatible.

I met my girlfriend after a few serious breakups that led me to change both intentionally and unintentionally over a few years. For better and for worse. She had just gotten out of an engagement with a verbally and physically abusive man who had a cocaine problem. We have been together about 8 months now. We hit it off and spent a lot of time together but she began to push our relationship as if there were a time clock for milestones. I was pressed beyond my comfort zone and went with it because of my affection for her. My living situation fell apart and I lost a few thousand dollars to shit roommates right around the time she and I met and she offered to let me stay with her. I agreed with some resistance. I pay for food, help her with bills, and throw money toward rent while trying to get back on my feet. As long as we have been together she has gotten more possessive, angry, and irrational. She is dealing with shit from her engagement and I feel shes looking for a level of seriou...
Read more