How would you let go of a grudge after your spouse did you wrong ?

Me and my wife have been married for 10 years and we have two boys. This is what happened. My car’s clutch broke down but I don’t use my wife’s car. Instead I use the public transport. There is been a time in my life where public transport was the only way to get around because i could not afford a car so I’m familiar with it. My car’s clutch broke down on Thursdays and on Friday, I went to work by bus because I do not want to use my wife’s car because I want to be as independent as possible. On Friday I had to work until late. Until 9 pm. I had no problems taking the bus but my wife insisted that she would pick me up. I kept refusing because like I said, I hate having to rely on other People. But eventually I reluctantly accepted. She already knew at that time i was suppose to be done. I went outside and waited for her. I’ve waited for long time but she didn’t show up. I tried to call her but no answer. I was wondering wtf she was doing. I called her again, still no answer. At some point I left a rather angry voice mail. I told her: next time don’t offer me services anymore if you can’t even answer your fucking phone. Why do you have a phone if you are not gonna answer it ? Why don’t you just thro your shit out of the window ? I decided fuck it, I’m gonna take the bus. While I was riding the bus, my phone rings. It was the wife but I did not answer. Instead I sent her a text saying: thanks for making me standing in front of the building like a fucking dummy for nothing. You are a good person to rely on with a middle finger at the end. When I got home she was in the kitchen but I went straight upstairs but she followed me, telling me that she doesn’t appreciate being spoken to like this. I was at my boiling point and told her FUCK YOU !!! Im suppose to appreciate the fact that you offered me a ride and never showed up and you had me standing there like a fucking dummy ? Go fuck your self !!! She said that she fail asleep and her phone was on silent and kept saying sorry but I I had enough. I ignored her and went to take a shower. I admit it. I went too far but she fucked up to and I’m still cold to her till this day. We do our usual parenting routine and house chores but other then that I ignore her when I don’t have to be around her. It’s not the first time I gave her cold shoulders. When we argue, after arguments I tend to become distant and mean. Witch I’m not proud off but I can’t help it. How would you let go of the grudge ?

Submitted May 19, 2019 at 03:54PM

Me and my wife have been married for 10 years and we have two boys. This is what happened. My car’s clutch broke down but I don’t use my wife’s car. Instead I use the public transport. There is been a time in my life where public transport was the only way to get around because i could not afford a car so I’m familiar with it. My car’s clutch broke down on Thursdays and on Friday, I went to work by bus because I do not want to use my wife’s car because I want to be as independent as possible. On Friday I had to work until late. Until 9 pm. I had no problems taking the bus but my wife insisted that she would pick me up. I kept refusing because like I said, I hate having to rely on other People. But eventually I reluctantly accepted. She already knew at that time i was suppose to be done. I went outside and waited for her. I’ve waited for long time but she didn’t show up. I tried to call her but no answer. I was wondering wtf she was doing. I called her again, still no answer. At some point I left a rather angry voice mail. I told her: next time don’t offer me services anymore if you can’t even answer your fucking phone. Why do you have a phone if you are not gonna answer it ? Why don’t you just thro your shit out of the window ? I decided fuck it, I’m gonna take the bus. While I was riding the bus, my phone rings. It was the wife but I did not answer. Instead I sent her a text saying: thanks for making me standing in front of the building like a fucking dummy for nothing. You are a good person to rely on with a middle finger at the end. When I got home she was in the kitchen but I went straight upstairs but she followed me, telling me that she doesn’t appreciate being spoken to like this. I was at my boiling point and told her FUCK YOU !!! Im suppose to appreciate the fact that you offered me a ride and never showed up and you had me standing there like a fucking dummy ? Go fuck your self !!! She said that she fail asleep and her phone was on silent and kept saying sorry but I I had enough. I ignored her and went to take a shower. I admit it. I went too far but she fucked up to and I’m still cold to her till this day. We do our usual parenting routine and house chores but other then that I ignore her when I don’t have to be around her. It’s not the first time I gave her cold shoulders. When we argue, after arguments I tend to become distant and mean. Witch I’m not proud off but I can’t help it. How would you let go of the grudge ?