Anyone experienced a mental health breakup? What was the eventual outcome?

Disclaimer: Not looking for false hope or negativity. But if you’ve gotten back with your ex then great. Just looking for people to relate to my situation.

My [21M] and my ex [21F] of 4 years (broken up for 2 months) broke up semi-amicably for mental health reasons. We both go to the same university. She’s bipolar and I’ve been very depressed for the past 10 months, for which I’m taking a semester off of school to focus on. Her bipolar is pretty minimal but has caused her to make some impulsive decisions in the past regarding her job, school, etc. that I usually try my best to walk her back from and reason things out with her to which she is very accepting of and appreciates my help every time since she’s aware of her mind state.

I’ve been severely depressed for about 10 months now and am currently getting treatment so I can return to school next semester. However, during our relationship I was projecting my depression into her passively just by being bland, gray, and just not fun or excited about anything

Our relationship itself was very healthy and great. We worked together extremely well and never experienced and fights (disagreements, but no fights) and we were always on the same page. The girl is amazing and I’d be lucky to marry her someday as she’s absolute wife material.

We still are both extremely physically attracted to one another, and still love and care about each other a lot.

Again, would love to have her back in my life someday as she’s an absolute keeper and we have no real problems between us, but I’m letting go to the best of my ability for now.

Anyone have experience with this kind of thing?

tl;dr : Girlfriend and I broke up for mental health reasons as neither of us was happy individually, but really love each other and work together great. There are no real issues in our relationship, just that we had general stagnation that became more prevalent after onset of my depression and her reoccurring bipolar tendencies that are now being treated.



Submitted October 13, 2019 at 11:35PM

Disclaimer: Not looking for false hope or negativity. But if you’ve gotten back with your ex then great. Just looking for people to relate to my situation.My [21M] and my ex [21F] of 4 years (broken up for 2 months) broke up semi-amicably for mental health reasons. We both go to the same university. She’s bipolar and I’ve been very depressed for the past 10 months, for which I’m taking a semester off of school to focus on. Her bipolar is pretty minimal but has caused her to make some impulsive decisions in the past regarding her job, school, etc. that I usually try my best to walk her back from and reason things out with her to which she is very accepting of and appreciates my help every time since she’s aware of her mind state.I’ve been severely depressed for about 10 months now and am currently getting treatment so I can return to school next semester. However, during our relationship I was projecting my depression into her passively just by being bland, gray, and just not fun or excited about anythingOur relationship itself was very healthy and great. We worked together extremely well and never experienced and fights (disagreements, but no fights) and we were always on the same page. The girl is amazing and I’d be lucky to marry her someday as she’s absolute wife material.We still are both extremely physically attracted to one another, and still love and care about each other a lot.Again, would love to have her back in my life someday as she’s an absolute keeper and we have no real problems between us, but I’m letting go to the best of my ability for now.Anyone have experience with this kind of thing?tl;dr : Girlfriend and I broke up for mental health reasons as neither of us was happy individually, but really love each other and work together great. There are no real issues in our relationship, just that we had general stagnation that became more prevalent after onset of my depression and her reoccurring bipolar tendencies that are now being treated.
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