How to forget an ex GF who I have to work with everyday

Okay this is a long story, and I think I know what you're going to tell me. But for the few who have real useful advice, I'm all ears.

Years ago I dated this sexy, gorgeous, fun, woman who I worked with. She was married and I was separated, but we dated. We also worked together, which is how we met. Then we broke up 6 months later and went our separate ways, both physically and work wise.

Fast forward 12 years. We're both married. I needed to hire someone, so I had a "bright idea', I would hire my ex-GF to work with me! What a great idea!

Not.

At first I thought it was great. I get to work with my ex, who is drop dead gorgeous, and she is also great at her work, a bonus.

The first month we worked together, she told me things were bad in her marriage. She felt the need to seduce me, which she did. She texted me romantic texts, told me she missed me and wanted to marry me, how much she wanted to have sex with me, etc. and of course I fell for it because I'm a sucker for love.

Of course, me being a guy I didn't say no. I thought she wasn't serious until one day she texted me pics of her (very beautiful) tits. Soon after, she was putting them in my mouth as we made out in her car. This lasted for about a month. I was SO in love, not just for the sex or good looks - she honestly was really nice to me and made me feel cared for.

Then I guess she knew she had the job (or she got bored of me), so she dumped me for another guy. Yes we were both married - I get it. But there was still emotions there. At least for me there was.

She would tell me later that she only dated me to make her husband jealous. Um, riiiight. So I guess she did the same for the next two guys she dated behind his back after she dumped me. She is really beautiful, and attracts guys like shit attracts flies. Guys literally fall for her the moment they see her. It sucks having a drop dead gorgeous GF/wifey.

So, now, two years later, I still work with her. I see her every single day. Some days she's nice to me, other days she ignores me. She has to tell me all the time that we're done, and to treat her like a coworker, which I struggle to do. I know I should just leave her alone, but its not easy, especially when she is uber-gorgeous.

Aside from telling me I'm blindly stupid, what other advice can you give me?



Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:50PM

Okay this is a long story, and I think I know what you're going to tell me. But for the few who have real useful advice, I'm all ears.Years ago I dated this sexy, gorgeous, fun, woman who I worked with. She was married and I was separated, but we dated. We also worked together, which is how we met. Then we broke up 6 months later and went our separate ways, both physically and work wise.Fast forward 12 years. We're both married. I needed to hire someone, so I had a "bright idea', I would hire my ex-GF to work with me! What a great idea!Not.At first I thought it was great. I get to work with my ex, who is drop dead gorgeous, and she is also great at her work, a bonus.The first month we worked together, she told me things were bad in her marriage. She felt the need to seduce me, which she did. She texted me romantic texts, told me she missed me and wanted to marry me, how much she wanted to have sex with me, etc. and of course I fell for it because I'm a sucker for love.Of course, me being a guy I didn't say no. I thought she wasn't serious until one day she texted me pics of her (very beautiful) tits. Soon after, she was putting them in my mouth as we made out in her car. This lasted for about a month. I was SO in love, not just for the sex or good looks - she honestly was really nice to me and made me feel cared for.Then I guess she knew she had the job (or she got bored of me), so she dumped me for another guy. Yes we were both married - I get it. But there was still emotions there. At least for me there was.She would tell me later that she only dated me to make her husband jealous. Um, riiiight. So I guess she did the same for the next two guys she dated behind his back after she dumped me. She is really beautiful, and attracts guys like shit attracts flies. Guys literally fall for her the moment they see her. It sucks having a drop dead gorgeous GF/wifey.So, now, two years later, I still work with her. I see her every single day. Some days she's nice to me, other days she ignores me. She has to tell me all the time that we're done, and to treat her like a coworker, which I struggle to do. I know I should just leave her alone, but its not easy, especially when she is uber-gorgeous.Aside from telling me I'm blindly stupid, what other advice can you give me?
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