Wait For It, Go For It, Other?

I (34M) have become interested in a woman (32F) in my friends circle. The thing is, she just got out of a several-year-long relationship somewhere around a year ago, and her other friends have made mention of her still having a hard time with it sometimes (he broke up with her, and in a bad way). We have almost exclusively hung out in group settings, but when we're alone it's never awkward and the conversation flows pretty well.

I want to ask her out on a date, but I'm not sure if I should give her more time to heal. On the one hand I think being asked out might help her feel better. But I'm stuck in this mind trap of worrying that I'll ruin my chances by asking too soon, but also that if I wait too long she'll be too used to me being a friend to even consider me as being more (is that even a thing?).

What do y'all think?

Submitted November 26, 2019 at 11:30PM

I (34M) have become interested in a woman (32F) in my friends circle. The thing is, she just got out of a several-year-long relationship somewhere around a year ago, and her other friends have made mention of her still having a hard time with it sometimes (he broke up with her, and in a bad way). We have almost exclusively hung out in group settings, but when we're alone it's never awkward and the conversation flows pretty well.I want to ask her out on a date, but I'm not sure if I should give her more time to heal. On the one hand I think being asked out might help her feel better. But I'm stuck in this mind trap of worrying that I'll ruin my chances by asking too soon, but also that if I wait too long she'll be too used to me being a friend to even consider me as being more (is that even a thing?).What do y'all think?