Girl I met from dating app played with my emotions and now I feel so dejected I don't know if I'm ever going to get a girlfriend tbh.

Im 18 and never had a girlfriend before. I've never made a move on a girl irl before or approached any girl Im attracted to because im shy and have low confidence due to being bullied in middle/high school for my looks. So I made earlier basically saying that Im giving up but someone recommended I try this dating app called Hinge. I tried and for the first time ever in my life, I actually got some matches. I literally didn't get any matches on Tinder and only got one match on Bumble that was with a girl I wasn't attracted to. So I matched with this one girl and we hit it off pretty well. Conversations through text went well and I asked her to meet up in person. What I shouldve realized from the start was that this girl was always unavailable which was a red flag. For starters, the first week I got her number, I messaged her on Tuesday and Wednesday and suggested we meet up on Thursday but she said she couldnt which I was fine with. I asked her to meetup on Friday and she couldn't cause she said she was going home after the chemistry exam (we are both freshman in college). I said that was undrstandable so I suggested next week and she said that's ok. So I noticed whenever I texted her on the weekend she would take literally hours 5-6 hours to reply but the thing was she would reply with detailed texts that were long and also ask me questions so I assumed she was into me. She would also send me good morning texts and stuff but it seemed like whenever I wanted to meet up with her in person it was very hard because she was always unavailble. We finally met up last Thursday after texting for a little over a week and the date went well. We talked and laughed the whole time and afterwards I suggested we meet up again to which she agreed to doing. Anyways the story is really long so im not gonna go into rest detail but basically she wasted my time by making me think she might be into me but at the same time making me feel like she didn't care about me. She usually sends me good morning or good afternoon texts so today I decided to return the favor by sending a good afternoon text to her and she hasn't responded in 7 hours now. That was the last straw for me.



Submitted November 27, 2019 at 12:03AM

Im 18 and never had a girlfriend before. I've never made a move on a girl irl before or approached any girl Im attracted to because im shy and have low confidence due to being bullied in middle/high school for my looks. So I made earlier basically saying that Im giving up but someone recommended I try this dating app called Hinge. I tried and for the first time ever in my life, I actually got some matches. I literally didn't get any matches on Tinder and only got one match on Bumble that was with a girl I wasn't attracted to. So I matched with this one girl and we hit it off pretty well. Conversations through text went well and I asked her to meet up in person. What I shouldve realized from the start was that this girl was always unavailable which was a red flag. For starters, the first week I got her number, I messaged her on Tuesday and Wednesday and suggested we meet up on Thursday but she said she couldnt which I was fine with. I asked her to meetup on Friday and she couldn't cause she said she was going home after the chemistry exam (we are both freshman in college). I said that was undrstandable so I suggested next week and she said that's ok. So I noticed whenever I texted her on the weekend she would take literally hours 5-6 hours to reply but the thing was she would reply with detailed texts that were long and also ask me questions so I assumed she was into me. She would also send me good morning texts and stuff but it seemed like whenever I wanted to meet up with her in person it was very hard because she was always unavailble. We finally met up last Thursday after texting for a little over a week and the date went well. We talked and laughed the whole time and afterwards I suggested we meet up again to which she agreed to doing. Anyways the story is really long so im not gonna go into rest detail but basically she wasted my time by making me think she might be into me but at the same time making me feel like she didn't care about me. She usually sends me good morning or good afternoon texts so today I decided to return the favor by sending a good afternoon text to her and she hasn't responded in 7 hours now. That was the last straw for me.
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