Had a really nice conversation with someone, but now what?

Hi, I’m just posting here cause I thought it might be useful to get some people’s advice. Recently, I (19M) was wondering what might happen if I messaged my old high school crush (17F) just for the heck of it to see how things go. And to my surprise, it was pretty good! She messaged back and we had a good conversation that flowed really well :). Things seemed to be going great! I was wanting to ask her if she wanted to meet up in person but the opportunity never came around — she said she had to go and have a rest bc the other night she only had 3 hrs of sleep (fair enough).

Anyway, towards the end, she sent a message wishing me “good luck with uni and stuff”, which was nice, but IDK, almost seemed like a conversation closer — as if the exchange was just gonna come to a close and be a one-off thing :/. I wished her good luck with her studies and work too and we finished off positively, however, I was left wondering what to do next. The way it ended sort of almost made it seem she thought my contact was just a nice one-off thing, but I was hoping to maybe meet up and see how things go :/.

Speaking with my friends who are also (now more distant) friends with her, they said no to worry too much as she may have just been tired and can be pretty guarded around guys (at least from the last time seeing her). But now I feel if I message her again (like today or something) it might be sort of awkward and unexpected, and I don’t wanna seem pushy or anything, especially if it just seemed like a one off thing.

What are people’s thoughts on this? What’s their advice? Thanks!

Submitted October 28, 2021 at 11:46PM

Hi, I’m just posting here cause I thought it might be useful to get some people’s advice. Recently, I (19M) was wondering what might happen if I messaged my old high school crush (17F) just for the heck of it to see how things go. And to my surprise, it was pretty good! She messaged back and we had a good conversation that flowed really well :). Things seemed to be going great! I was wanting to ask her if she wanted to meet up in person but the opportunity never came around — she said she had to go and have a rest bc the other night she only had 3 hrs of sleep (fair enough).Anyway, towards the end, she sent a message wishing me “good luck with uni and stuff”, which was nice, but IDK, almost seemed like a conversation closer — as if the exchange was just gonna come to a close and be a one-off thing :/. I wished her good luck with her studies and work too and we finished off positively, however, I was left wondering what to do next. The way it ended sort of almost made it seem she thought my contact was just a nice one-off thing, but I was hoping to maybe meet up and see how things go :/.Speaking with my friends who are also (now more distant) friends with her, they said no to worry too much as she may have just been tired and can be pretty guarded around guys (at least from the last time seeing her). But now I feel if I message her again (like today or something) it might be sort of awkward and unexpected, and I don’t wanna seem pushy or anything, especially if it just seemed like a one off thing.What are people’s thoughts on this? What’s their advice? Thanks!