I'm really confused about what my FWB wants.

So I have several FWBs and have had them in the past. It's always been pretty clear cut and dry. We hang out, we get a drink, we talk about stuff, but we also fuck. Sounds simple enough.

But this 1 FWB I've been seeing for about 8 months is really starting to confuse me.

It was normal in the beginning just like all FWB relationships. But she's started to sleep over my apt after sex.

Which was cute. No problem.

She started coming over 3x a week and we fucked 3x a week and it was AWESOME. But only on weekdays, because during the weekends, she hangs out her boyfriend/ex/whatever-they-are

Then, for the past 2 months, she just... comes over... after work... and just... hangs out at my place. I can't even invite other FWBs over. We don't even have sex most the time she's over!

Like, I really like her, she's cool, we're good friends... but I have no idea what she wants.

She has her own apt but shes over all the time and we're NOT fucking.

I'd be down to date her exclusively because I really did like her. So 2 months ago, I was like "hey... do you want something more out of this?" She said "no? i like how we are"

I thought she liked me and maybe we could be something more down the line?

Anyway... i had another FWB over for the weekend, and we left some condom wrappers on the floor I forgot to pick up. She found it and made fun of me for it "oh look at you fucking other people!"

Then last week, something really annoyed the shit out of me. I turn on Kim's Convenience to catch the last season because we had just talked about it over dinner and we both hadn't seen the last season yet.

She immediately got up to leave because she was like "oh, I watched the first couple seasons with Mike (her ex) I want to finish it with him, so I can't watch it if you're gonna watch it now"

WTF? That really annoyed the shit out of me. I feel like she pushed the boundaries and then made me feel stupid for playing along... and something SO basic like watching a TV show together was something to make her get up and leave... yet sleeping over all the time seemed ok... wtf.

I honestly don't know what she wants. Do FWBs hang out all the time without sex? Because that's not been my experience.... and I hate that she's making this so unclear



Submitted October 29, 2021 at 12:49AM

So I have several FWBs and have had them in the past. It's always been pretty clear cut and dry. We hang out, we get a drink, we talk about stuff, but we also fuck. Sounds simple enough.But this 1 FWB I've been seeing for about 8 months is really starting to confuse me.It was normal in the beginning just like all FWB relationships. But she's started to sleep over my apt after sex.Which was cute. No problem.She started coming over 3x a week and we fucked 3x a week and it was AWESOME. But only on weekdays, because during the weekends, she hangs out her boyfriend/ex/whatever-they-areThen, for the past 2 months, she just... comes over... after work... and just... hangs out at my place. I can't even invite other FWBs over. We don't even have sex most the time she's over!Like, I really like her, she's cool, we're good friends... but I have no idea what she wants.She has her own apt but shes over all the time and we're NOT fucking.I'd be down to date her exclusively because I really did like her. So 2 months ago, I was like "hey... do you want something more out of this?" She said "no? i like how we are"I thought she liked me and maybe we could be something more down the line?Anyway... i had another FWB over for the weekend, and we left some condom wrappers on the floor I forgot to pick up. She found it and made fun of me for it "oh look at you fucking other people!"Then last week, something really annoyed the shit out of me. I turn on Kim's Convenience to catch the last season because we had just talked about it over dinner and we both hadn't seen the last season yet.She immediately got up to leave because she was like "oh, I watched the first couple seasons with Mike (her ex) I want to finish it with him, so I can't watch it if you're gonna watch it now"WTF? That really annoyed the shit out of me. I feel like she pushed the boundaries and then made me feel stupid for playing along... and something SO basic like watching a TV show together was something to make her get up and leave... yet sleeping over all the time seemed ok... wtf.I honestly don't know what she wants. Do FWBs hang out all the time without sex? Because that's not been my experience.... and I hate that she's making this so unclear
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