I [23/F] feel really weird about my boyfriend's [23/M] mom spending so much time with us.

Me and my boyfriend started dating back in April. On our first ever date, his mom not only dropped him off, but she also went and saw a movie with us. It was the three of us seeing a movie on our first date and it did feel a little awkward, but I was still willing to give him a chance since he seemed a nice guy and his mom was very sweet. He asked me to officially be his girlfriend on our second date and ever since then, we've have some limited time together and his mom has been attending a majority of our dates.

The main reason is that his mom is more or less is chauffeur. His license is revoked for having a history of DUI's and me and his mom have to drive him around. We also live across town from each other, and I don't have a ton of free time to always drive a ways to see him. The three of us of have been camping together on two separate occasions and we've gone out to eat and see movies together multiple times. It wasn't until last night that it started to dawn on me how strange it was. The three of us saw Joker, went out to eat, and went shopping together and it suddenly struck me how me and my boyfriend seemed to be spending more time with his mom chaperoning than the two of us alone together.

I just feel kind of weird about his mom going on a good majority of our dates together. I just wish for the times when me and him could just be alone, but he doesn't seem to have any problem with his mom being with us all of the time. Am I overreacting and being too harsh or am I right to be somewhat concerned?

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tldr: Boyfriend's mom spends a lot of time with us.



Submitted October 05, 2019 at 12:17AM

Me and my boyfriend started dating back in April. On our first ever date, his mom not only dropped him off, but she also went and saw a movie with us. It was the three of us seeing a movie on our first date and it did feel a little awkward, but I was still willing to give him a chance since he seemed a nice guy and his mom was very sweet. He asked me to officially be his girlfriend on our second date and ever since then, we've have some limited time together and his mom has been attending a majority of our dates.The main reason is that his mom is more or less is chauffeur. His license is revoked for having a history of DUI's and me and his mom have to drive him around. We also live across town from each other, and I don't have a ton of free time to always drive a ways to see him. The three of us of have been camping together on two separate occasions and we've gone out to eat and see movies together multiple times. It wasn't until last night that it started to dawn on me how strange it was. The three of us saw Joker, went out to eat, and went shopping together and it suddenly struck me how me and my boyfriend seemed to be spending more time with his mom chaperoning than the two of us alone together.I just feel kind of weird about his mom going on a good majority of our dates together. I just wish for the times when me and him could just be alone, but he doesn't seem to have any problem with his mom being with us all of the time. Am I overreacting and being too harsh or am I right to be somewhat concerned?​tldr: Boyfriend's mom spends a lot of time with us.
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