Can a distant relationship work ?

Me [F18], Him [M21 soon 22] I met him online on an app where I wanted to practice my English writing skills. It was a letter-like app, so we had to wait to receive the answer of the other according to how far we are from each other. We talked for one month on this app, we felt very friendly immediately (surnames and all). We live in different countries but not too far still. Then, we started to feel frustrated because of the wait for the message. So we switched to email. We could send some for hours when we were not busy... and tried to talk as much as we can. I think we became even closer, even if as friends you can send hearts and very tender and cute messages. We even talked about more personal stuff, to make our conversation like safe places even if you don't want to talk. We then switched to an instant messager app few months after because it was way simple to talk. We became like friends with benefits, but in a very respectful way (because I got hard times in my past with sexuality), he listens to the no I can say and make me laught to calm me. Last year was a very difficult one for me psychlogically, so I thought I was emotionally obsessed with him, like I love him but it's my mind lying to myself because I feel lonely (it already happenned to me).

Now, it's been 1 year and a half we talk. Not everyday because we can't, but as soon as we can and for long hours. But... I feel like the side "friends with benefits" is not really that today. We talk about sex because we are absolute perverts lol, but we don't go into sexting directly or just don't. And we send each other a lot of kind random messages in the middle of our conversations (I missed you, you are the cutest girl on earth, you are the most awesome guy on earth...), we also sometimes regret that we are apart irl.

Now that everything is getting better in my life, I really do ask myself "is, what I feel, love ?" (I'm getting very emotional by writing this post, weird). But at the same time... we are a bit far from each other, we communicate in English which is for neither of us our native language, we never met, I know his face because I typed his name on internet and he doesn't know how I look, and we can't see each other irl (or it will happen in a long time)... we are both shy persons when it comes to feelings (especially him)...

So I have two questions for you : 1) Is a distant relationship possible ? 2) Should I tell him how I feel ? Yes, how to not ruin everything ? (Well it's 3 questions sorry hehe ⁾ Thank you for reading this far <3

Submitted February 05, 2020 at 11:56PM

Me [F18], Him [M21 soon 22] I met him online on an app where I wanted to practice my English writing skills. It was a letter-like app, so we had to wait to receive the answer of the other according to how far we are from each other. We talked for one month on this app, we felt very friendly immediately (surnames and all). We live in different countries but not too far still. Then, we started to feel frustrated because of the wait for the message. So we switched to email. We could send some for hours when we were not busy... and tried to talk as much as we can. I think we became even closer, even if as friends you can send hearts and very tender and cute messages. We even talked about more personal stuff, to make our conversation like safe places even if you don't want to talk. We then switched to an instant messager app few months after because it was way simple to talk. We became like friends with benefits, but in a very respectful way (because I got hard times in my past with sexuality), he listens to the no I can say and make me laught to calm me. Last year was a very difficult one for me psychlogically, so I thought I was emotionally obsessed with him, like I love him but it's my mind lying to myself because I feel lonely (it already happenned to me).Now, it's been 1 year and a half we talk. Not everyday because we can't, but as soon as we can and for long hours. But... I feel like the side "friends with benefits" is not really that today. We talk about sex because we are absolute perverts lol, but we don't go into sexting directly or just don't. And we send each other a lot of kind random messages in the middle of our conversations (I missed you, you are the cutest girl on earth, you are the most awesome guy on earth...), we also sometimes regret that we are apart irl.Now that everything is getting better in my life, I really do ask myself "is, what I feel, love ?" (I'm getting very emotional by writing this post, weird). But at the same time... we are a bit far from each other, we communicate in English which is for neither of us our native language, we never met, I know his face because I typed his name on internet and he doesn't know how I look, and we can't see each other irl (or it will happen in a long time)... we are both shy persons when it comes to feelings (especially him)...So I have two questions for you : 1) Is a distant relationship possible ? 2) Should I tell him how I feel ? Yes, how to not ruin everything ? (Well it's 3 questions sorry hehe ) Thank you for reading this far <3