How to get over a guy?

I had a pretty intense texting relationship with a guy from school.

He asked me to hang out some time but every time he'd ask I was working or exhausted/pms, or just not up to it. But we'd still talk a lot in text.

After a few weeks he started being kinda rude in text and eventually I invited him out at night at a restaurant and he said no. I think I invited him out to make sure he knows I wanna see him. And to make sure he didn't think I wanna have sex or something I said "yeah we can hang out n be friends." (which he didn't like, but I've never even kissed a guy so I was nervous n he doesn't know I've never kissed anyone etc.).

He insulted my personality and I said he was being a jerk and I don't wanna see him. He commented on me being childish, not talking enough, even dumb (jokingly I think).

I'm still upset about it. I texted him a random question a couple weeks later and he just ignored me. Our texts were playful and fun. I miss it.

And I still want to see him. I mean I thought he liked me so it's confusing. Then again he said I'm confusing too. Maybe cuz I wouldn't say where I live or my age or if I have a boyfriend (I said yeah he lives in a dumpster and I do too which he thought was funny lol). I'm not comfortable telling someone I barely know that stuff over text...

I kinda feel abandoned and ignored now. I'm always hoping I see him somewhere. And I don't like many guys. I was attracted to him. :/ I had a couple crying sessions.

Like should I text him I miss him or just leave things be? Should I tell him I had anxiety and inexperience with dating? That night he texted "Take care" like he's done with me or I'm guessing that's the meaning.



Submitted February 06, 2020 at 12:02AM

I had a pretty intense texting relationship with a guy from school.He asked me to hang out some time but every time he'd ask I was working or exhausted/pms, or just not up to it. But we'd still talk a lot in text.After a few weeks he started being kinda rude in text and eventually I invited him out at night at a restaurant and he said no. I think I invited him out to make sure he knows I wanna see him. And to make sure he didn't think I wanna have sex or something I said "yeah we can hang out n be friends." (which he didn't like, but I've never even kissed a guy so I was nervous n he doesn't know I've never kissed anyone etc.).He insulted my personality and I said he was being a jerk and I don't wanna see him. He commented on me being childish, not talking enough, even dumb (jokingly I think).I'm still upset about it. I texted him a random question a couple weeks later and he just ignored me. Our texts were playful and fun. I miss it.And I still want to see him. I mean I thought he liked me so it's confusing. Then again he said I'm confusing too. Maybe cuz I wouldn't say where I live or my age or if I have a boyfriend (I said yeah he lives in a dumpster and I do too which he thought was funny lol). I'm not comfortable telling someone I barely know that stuff over text...I kinda feel abandoned and ignored now. I'm always hoping I see him somewhere. And I don't like many guys. I was attracted to him. :/ I had a couple crying sessions.Like should I text him I miss him or just leave things be? Should I tell him I had anxiety and inexperience with dating? That night he texted "Take care" like he's done with me or I'm guessing that's the meaning.
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