How to not freak out/jump to conclusions when a guy doesn’t text between dates?!

I’m a female in my early twenties who started seeing a guy in his early thirties a few weeks ago. We texted for a week or two before finally meeting.

First date went well, ended with him kissing me/making out and some hand holding. Texted often after that. He planned second date before first date ended.

Second date also went well. No sex, but definitely some heavy smooching. Both agreed wanted to wait for sex. Both initiating texting after date-about 50:50. Sometimes he text first, sometimes I but both keep the convo going. Talked about third date but couldn’t make definite plans due to busy schedules.

Third date wasn’t really a date but more of a last minute hangout/wanting to see each other in the spur of the moment. We had both been busy and didn’t plan a formal date but still wanted to see each other. He came over and Spent the night, cuddling/spooning, kissing all night.

Morning after I get a text from him saying he had a great time. I asked him out for a date the next week which he agreed too. All the previous dates he had initiated so I felt it was my turn to initiate one. After making these plans though texting has fallen off.

I have texted him first twice to which he replies right away.. but he has stopped texting me first. It’s only been 3 days since I last saw him but 2 of those 3 days I initiated the texting and felt his replies were shorter than normal.

Our date for the week is still on as far as I know but his sudden drop off in texting has been given me major anxiety and has me wondering if this is him starting to fade out. Things seem so well in person but now that the texting habits have changed I’m wondering why. I don’t want to mention it because it’s so early on.

TL;DR had 3 great dates with a guy. 4th one is planned for the week but texting has suddenly fallen off on his side. I texted him first a couple times to which he replied back right away but why has he stopped texting me first? Any advice on not worrying so much about lack of texting or should I be worried that he isn’t texting now....



Submitted April 09, 2019 at 04:11AM

I’m a female in my early twenties who started seeing a guy in his early thirties a few weeks ago. We texted for a week or two before finally meeting.First date went well, ended with him kissing me/making out and some hand holding. Texted often after that. He planned second date before first date ended.Second date also went well. No sex, but definitely some heavy smooching. Both agreed wanted to wait for sex. Both initiating texting after date-about 50:50. Sometimes he text first, sometimes I but both keep the convo going. Talked about third date but couldn’t make definite plans due to busy schedules.Third date wasn’t really a date but more of a last minute hangout/wanting to see each other in the spur of the moment. We had both been busy and didn’t plan a formal date but still wanted to see each other. He came over and Spent the night, cuddling/spooning, kissing all night.Morning after I get a text from him saying he had a great time. I asked him out for a date the next week which he agreed too. All the previous dates he had initiated so I felt it was my turn to initiate one. After making these plans though texting has fallen off.I have texted him first twice to which he replies right away.. but he has stopped texting me first. It’s only been 3 days since I last saw him but 2 of those 3 days I initiated the texting and felt his replies were shorter than normal.Our date for the week is still on as far as I know but his sudden drop off in texting has been given me major anxiety and has me wondering if this is him starting to fade out. Things seem so well in person but now that the texting habits have changed I’m wondering why. I don’t want to mention it because it’s so early on.TL;DR had 3 great dates with a guy. 4th one is planned for the week but texting has suddenly fallen off on his side. I texted him first a couple times to which he replied back right away but why has he stopped texting me first? Any advice on not worrying so much about lack of texting or should I be worried that he isn’t texting now....
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