Honestly, don't know what happened and looking for some help.

I will make this fast because it is a long story. A girl came up to me at the gym and gave me her number after saying " I don't know if you are single or not but...". We set up a date for coffee and it went well (I think). Tell her I had a good time and we should do it again. She agrees we meet at the gym and work out. At this point I'm still building up the balls to display interest physically but I think I made it clear that I was interested verbally. I think I am scheduling a third date. She wants to go out with some of her friends and I thought I was getting introduced to them. She told me one of them thought I was cute when she saw me. I threw a comment out there along the lines of "tbh I am not the cute one out of the two of us". After that she told me she was actually trying to set me up with this girl that said I as cute. This was an hour before the third "date"

I didn't take this well. I didn't snap at her over text or anything just explained that I felt like I was getting passed around and I would rather not go. I wished her luck with what she wanted to do in life and that's the end of the story.

I have no idea what happened, what signs did I miss? And if I should have done something else. I did like this girl but idk how I fucked it up the point of not dating her but not fuck it up hard enough where she wouldn't recommend me to a friend. Is it worth talking about what happened? or should I just walk away?

Some information that might help. (Edit) Getting coffee lasted 3 hours on the first date of us just talking. She seemed interested but I didn't touch her because I'm trash at that. I'm a pretty solid talker/ listener and I make alot of jokes, she did laugh alot during both encounters. I felt like we had similar interests though she didn't seem to like my taste in music and may have though one of my hobbies was strange (esports)

Submitted April 09, 2019 at 04:46AM

I will make this fast because it is a long story. A girl came up to me at the gym and gave me her number after saying " I don't know if you are single or not but...". We set up a date for coffee and it went well (I think). Tell her I had a good time and we should do it again. She agrees we meet at the gym and work out. At this point I'm still building up the balls to display interest physically but I think I made it clear that I was interested verbally. I think I am scheduling a third date. She wants to go out with some of her friends and I thought I was getting introduced to them. She told me one of them thought I was cute when she saw me. I threw a comment out there along the lines of "tbh I am not the cute one out of the two of us". After that she told me she was actually trying to set me up with this girl that said I as cute. This was an hour before the third "date"I didn't take this well. I didn't snap at her over text or anything just explained that I felt like I was getting passed around and I would rather not go. I wished her luck with what she wanted to do in life and that's the end of the story.I have no idea what happened, what signs did I miss? And if I should have done something else. I did like this girl but idk how I fucked it up the point of not dating her but not fuck it up hard enough where she wouldn't recommend me to a friend. Is it worth talking about what happened? or should I just walk away?Some information that might help. (Edit) Getting coffee lasted 3 hours on the first date of us just talking. She seemed interested but I didn't touch her because I'm trash at that. I'm a pretty solid talker/ listener and I make alot of jokes, she did laugh alot during both encounters. I felt like we had similar interests though she didn't seem to like my taste in music and may have though one of my hobbies was strange (esports)