Things went awkward between me and her after admitting that I like her. How to make her comfortable with me again?

She is my friend. I admitted to her that I like her last Wednesday but I plan to move on. She already has a boyfriend but I have no plans on pursuing her.  I admitted to her that my feelings are so strong that I cannot bear ot anymore. I even told her that I did not want to have this feelings that I like her and I want to get over it.

Its hard for me to move on before admitting it to her that I have feelings for her. Hence, that is the reason why I admitted to her because I want to let her know my intentions and she will provide me the space I need. I told her after I move on, I am still open to being friends again. She told me she needs to think about it in which I understand. In addition, she told me that I need to change my behavior (I am clingy to her)

Now, whenever I see her in class. Both of us are awkward to each other. Both of us don't talk to each other unless its really necessary. I really feel uncomfortable whenever I see her and I feel like she also feels the same. Well obviously one day, I want both of us to be comfortable to each other again and if possible, become friends again

Any advice on how to make things with her comfortable with me again after I move on?

tldr: I admitted to her that I like her the other day. Things went really awkward between us when we see each other. Any advice on how to make things with her comfortable with me again after I move on?



Submitted April 09, 2019 at 04:32AM

She is my friend. I admitted to her that I like her last Wednesday but I plan to move on. She already has a boyfriend but I have no plans on pursuing her.  I admitted to her that my feelings are so strong that I cannot bear ot anymore. I even told her that I did not want to have this feelings that I like her and I want to get over it.Its hard for me to move on before admitting it to her that I have feelings for her. Hence, that is the reason why I admitted to her because I want to let her know my intentions and she will provide me the space I need. I told her after I move on, I am still open to being friends again. She told me she needs to think about it in which I understand. In addition, she told me that I need to change my behavior (I am clingy to her)Now, whenever I see her in class. Both of us are awkward to each other. Both of us don't talk to each other unless its really necessary. I really feel uncomfortable whenever I see her and I feel like she also feels the same. Well obviously one day, I want both of us to be comfortable to each other again and if possible, become friends againAny advice on how to make things with her comfortable with me again after I move on?tldr: I admitted to her that I like her the other day. Things went really awkward between us when we see each other. Any advice on how to make things with her comfortable with me again after I move on?
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