20M(me) and 18F girlfriend of two years are taking a “break”, is it worth it?

Kind of a long backstory but, please, bear with me.

I’m gonna start off saying that we are each other’s first ever / first serious boyfriend/girlfriend; i don’t know if that makes a difference but thought it was worth mentioning.

My girlfriend went on a spring break trip with her friends. Barely talked to texted me the whole time. The day she gets back home,we hang out but she makes up an excuse (she admitted it was an excuse) to leave me much earlier than normal and just kind of ignored me all day. Before she left she was absolutely OBSESSED with me, even to the point where she cried the night she left when we were saying bye because she was going to miss me. I confront her about her acting strange since she’s gotten back. Immediately get attacked, she says thing like “how is one trip going to change me” “i don’t even know what you’re talking about” and “i just realized i need to spend more time with me friends”. i told her that it’s great that she wants to hangout with her friends more but she’s just been so weird about it.

Anyways, come to find out she has been telling her friends that she is going to break up with me right after a prom we’re going to together in a week.

So the next day i confront her again, telling her I heard that she’s been saying that she’s going to break up with me and i asked her if it was true. She denies it at first but eventually gives in and admits to it. She starts crying saying she still loves me but she just doesn’t love me like she used to. And that it started before her trip. She said that it wasn’t anything I did in particular and told me that i’ve been nothing but good to her and that i’m “perfect” and that I don’t deserve to go through this and she wishes it wasn’t this way, but she just doesn’t feel the same anymore.

She says she doesn’t want to actually break up with me so we decided to take a break until May 4th, i agreed to take a break because I really do love her and would love to fix it but i just don’t know if i’m being fair to myself since she doesn’t love me as much as i love her.

But just some things i’ve been wondering: -Is it worth trying to fix it or is it even fixable? -Am I doing myself a disservice trying to fix it, like is it fair to me?

I was talking to a friend who’s been in a similar situation and he said the only way to know if you really miss them or need them is to completely stop talking for a while, is there any truth to this?

TL:DR; girlfriend goes on spring break trip, comes back acting different. I confront her about it and we decide to take a break because she “doesn’t love me like she used to, but still loves me”. We decided to take a break until May, 4th to figure things out.

If you read all of that thank you so much for. i’ve been torn up about it lately and really just need some advice and opinions. any and all replies are appreciated 🙏🏻.

Submitted April 09, 2019 at 05:32AM

Kind of a long backstory but, please, bear with me.I’m gonna start off saying that we are each other’s first ever / first serious boyfriend/girlfriend; i don’t know if that makes a difference but thought it was worth mentioning.My girlfriend went on a spring break trip with her friends. Barely talked to texted me the whole time. The day she gets back home,we hang out but she makes up an excuse (she admitted it was an excuse) to leave me much earlier than normal and just kind of ignored me all day. Before she left she was absolutely OBSESSED with me, even to the point where she cried the night she left when we were saying bye because she was going to miss me. I confront her about her acting strange since she’s gotten back. Immediately get attacked, she says thing like “how is one trip going to change me” “i don’t even know what you’re talking about” and “i just realized i need to spend more time with me friends”. i told her that it’s great that she wants to hangout with her friends more but she’s just been so weird about it.Anyways, come to find out she has been telling her friends that she is going to break up with me right after a prom we’re going to together in a week.So the next day i confront her again, telling her I heard that she’s been saying that she’s going to break up with me and i asked her if it was true. She denies it at first but eventually gives in and admits to it. She starts crying saying she still loves me but she just doesn’t love me like she used to. And that it started before her trip. She said that it wasn’t anything I did in particular and told me that i’ve been nothing but good to her and that i’m “perfect” and that I don’t deserve to go through this and she wishes it wasn’t this way, but she just doesn’t feel the same anymore.She says she doesn’t want to actually break up with me so we decided to take a break until May 4th, i agreed to take a break because I really do love her and would love to fix it but i just don’t know if i’m being fair to myself since she doesn’t love me as much as i love her.But just some things i’ve been wondering: -Is it worth trying to fix it or is it even fixable? -Am I doing myself a disservice trying to fix it, like is it fair to me?I was talking to a friend who’s been in a similar situation and he said the only way to know if you really miss them or need them is to completely stop talking for a while, is there any truth to this?TL:DR; girlfriend goes on spring break trip, comes back acting different. I confront her about it and we decide to take a break because she “doesn’t love me like she used to, but still loves me”. We decided to take a break until May, 4th to figure things out.If you read all of that thank you so much for. i’ve been torn up about it lately and really just need some advice and opinions. any and all replies are appreciated 🙏🏻.