Is this too much information?

I’m very new to online dating. After a 15 year marriage and a year being single, I started match.com last week. I’ve talked to several guys and they are all more or less the same conversation but with different answers. With the exception being this one guy, who may have been the very first guy I talked to, who I made the mistake of giving my number to, and we talk SO much. I’m talking good morning texts, I’m on break texts, I’m on lunch texts, now I’m home texts, etc. you get it. All instigated by him but I do always answer and I do enjoy our conversations. But whereas with the other guys, we will talk for a bit, maybe a few check ins, they come and go and so do I, This guy will go back and forth all night. He’s really pushing to meet in person but I’ve already figured out that they all do that. I’ve only known this guy for five days and he’s asked me if I would be willing to relocate to where he lives (presumably in his house) because he doesn’t want to make his kids switch districts. He’s told me he can’t have more kids but he’s fine with adoption if I want that. Different things like that. I feel like we are negotiating the terms of our inevitable marriage and I haven’t even met him yet. Yesterday he started questioning my sexual habits, like how often am I willing to have sex and things like that and it just feels like it’s not a conversation, it’s an interview to be his wife. The thing is, I do think I like him. Because we have talked so intimately and so often, I feel like I have a decent idea of who he is. Im not ready to get married but he seems like a good guy and we have lots of things in common that are important. Never mind the fact that I am just getting back out there and I just wanted to go on a few dates and not get into anything too serious yet. (I mean that’s important but never mind it for now.) Has anyone else experienced this? What do you think of this behavior! Should I be flattered? Cut and run? Just go with it and see what happens? Thanks for listening.



Submitted April 24, 2019 at 06:25PM

I’m very new to online dating. After a 15 year marriage and a year being single, I started match.com last week. I’ve talked to several guys and they are all more or less the same conversation but with different answers. With the exception being this one guy, who may have been the very first guy I talked to, who I made the mistake of giving my number to, and we talk SO much. I’m talking good morning texts, I’m on break texts, I’m on lunch texts, now I’m home texts, etc. you get it. All instigated by him but I do always answer and I do enjoy our conversations. But whereas with the other guys, we will talk for a bit, maybe a few check ins, they come and go and so do I, This guy will go back and forth all night. He’s really pushing to meet in person but I’ve already figured out that they all do that. I’ve only known this guy for five days and he’s asked me if I would be willing to relocate to where he lives (presumably in his house) because he doesn’t want to make his kids switch districts. He’s told me he can’t have more kids but he’s fine with adoption if I want that. Different things like that. I feel like we are negotiating the terms of our inevitable marriage and I haven’t even met him yet. Yesterday he started questioning my sexual habits, like how often am I willing to have sex and things like that and it just feels like it’s not a conversation, it’s an interview to be his wife. The thing is, I do think I like him. Because we have talked so intimately and so often, I feel like I have a decent idea of who he is. Im not ready to get married but he seems like a good guy and we have lots of things in common that are important. Never mind the fact that I am just getting back out there and I just wanted to go on a few dates and not get into anything too serious yet. (I mean that’s important but never mind it for now.) Has anyone else experienced this? What do you think of this behavior! Should I be flattered? Cut and run? Just go with it and see what happens? Thanks for listening.
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