Me [30 M] with [23F] 6 months, coworker and I were both flirting/interested, nothing can or will eventuate, is there any point discussing it?

I've known this woman for around 6 months, I was in kind of a superior position to her, we seemed to get closer and got on very well. She mentioned to me once briefly that she had a boyfriend, then completely dropped all mentioning of it almost immediately and would talk about only a 'friend' in any interactions fairly obviously involving him, which I found odd. Due to spending a lot of time together we got on well, and I could see she was flirting obviously and seemed very very interested. This went on for a while and I felt sort of continued to escalate. Every time we hung out it really did feel kind of like a date.

But, I knew she was taken so I didn't act on it at all. There were other situational factors to that wouldn't have worked and I was unclear if she was actually wanting to leave her boyfriend or just looking for attention. I forced myself to think about it, decided it wouldn't work and started actively trying to cool down the interactions.

For someone I still enjoy as a friend, I've felt a desire to clarify that. I'm not sure if she feels I'm interested in her and wouldn't want me to progress things, or if she feels she was interested in me and I didn't do anything. I really don't know. Is there any point raising this? Or should I just let my lack of ever trying to take things further speak for itself.

I'm the kind of person that likes to speak about things and I feel that is a detriment sometimes.

tl;dr, co worker and I seemed very interested, situational factors prevented it. Seems a touch odd now. Not sure if I should say anything.

Submitted April 25, 2019 at 07:12AM

I've known this woman for around 6 months, I was in kind of a superior position to her, we seemed to get closer and got on very well. She mentioned to me once briefly that she had a boyfriend, then completely dropped all mentioning of it almost immediately and would talk about only a 'friend' in any interactions fairly obviously involving him, which I found odd. Due to spending a lot of time together we got on well, and I could see she was flirting obviously and seemed very very interested. This went on for a while and I felt sort of continued to escalate. Every time we hung out it really did feel kind of like a date.But, I knew she was taken so I didn't act on it at all. There were other situational factors to that wouldn't have worked and I was unclear if she was actually wanting to leave her boyfriend or just looking for attention. I forced myself to think about it, decided it wouldn't work and started actively trying to cool down the interactions.For someone I still enjoy as a friend, I've felt a desire to clarify that. I'm not sure if she feels I'm interested in her and wouldn't want me to progress things, or if she feels she was interested in me and I didn't do anything. I really don't know. Is there any point raising this? Or should I just let my lack of ever trying to take things further speak for itself.I'm the kind of person that likes to speak about things and I feel that is a detriment sometimes.tl;dr, co worker and I seemed very interested, situational factors prevented it. Seems a touch odd now. Not sure if I should say anything.