I (33F) am feeling nervous about and almost scared of my neighbor (?M)

I don't really know where to post this, but I'm kind of freaking out right now. Even though it might be completely unjustified. What started as a little misunderstanding between us seems to be getting blown out of proportion by him.

Quick backstory; where I live we have a laundromat in the apartment complex that all the tenants can use. It can only be used by one person at a time and you have to book an appointment to use it, either that or you can take another person's appointment after 30 minutes if they don't show up to theirs.

Anyway, this guy lives door to door to me. Yesterday, I had booked an appointment to use the laundromat between 1pm-4pm. You can book appointments online, which I did earlier during the day.

I got home around 1:00, grabbed my laundry and was on my way around 1:10. Then I meet my neighbor outside of his door, with a hamper in front of him. He asks me if I'm about to use the laundromat and I said yes so he said "oh, you go right ahead, I have an appointment booked later anyway". To which I reply "okay thanks, although I'm the one who has this appointment now" I said and laughed a little. I did feel like something was a bit off about him, it was something in his eyes. So for some reason, I expected there to be some kind of aftermath.

I do my laundry, everything's fine. Then around 6pm he sends me a text on Facebook Messenger. So this guy has managed to find my first and last name and then he found me on Facebook to send me a long message. That's creepy on it's own. (I wish I could send a screenshot of the messages he has sent me, but they're in Swedish. I can try to translate them in the comments if anyone is interested.)

In the message, he felt like he had to explain himself and what had happened from his point of view. And he wanted to assure me that our discussion was an amicable one. Using lots of caps. Explaining to me that there has been problems with the booking system, that I should join this group for all the tenants to get more information about what's going on in the building.

I didn't want to set him off (since I don't trust this guy) by not answering, so I replied, told him that I understand and that it was completely fine. I told him that I hope I didn't come off as rude, and that if I did I'm sorry. I thanked him for giving me the advice about the group and I asked him if it was a Facebook group or where I could find it (I know now I shouldn't have asked, but I was just trying to be nice). I also thanked him for offering to let me go ahead, in case none of us would've booked, it was very nice of him.

He then sends me another long message trying to explain everything. He is telling me that I didn't sound rude at all and goes on to explain a little bit more.

He then sends me another message explain a bit further.

Then another, again, explaining things a bit further. After which he promises to not send me anymore messages. And he wishes me a good life and a good weekend.

I respond, thank him for the information, tell him that I'm going to join the group and that I wish him a good weekend himself.

Everything is okay, so far. But then this guy, just an hour ago, when it was 1am here he sends me this long messages, longer than all his previous messages combined. Again explaining himself and is talking about society and how he's different than everyone else and bla bla.

He is starts the message of with "If you actually got mad, well, that's pretty ridiculous, isn't it?"

This might sounds stupid as hell, but I can't sleep now. I actually feel afraid that this is going to escalate. That he's not going to give up and that he's going to continue this in some weird way. Maybe I'm getting way too worked up over this, but why can't he just let it go? Why is he still going on about this 1 ½ day after? Even though we had already resolved it.

He's a very big guy too, I wouldn't stand a chance against him if he tried anything. What can I even do in this situation to not escalate things?

TL;DR: Got into a misunderstanding with my neighbor, he finds me on Facebook Messenger and starts sending me long messages and he's not stopping. This is making me feel very uncomfortable.

Submitted September 28, 2019 at 12:13AM

I don't really know where to post this, but I'm kind of freaking out right now. Even though it might be completely unjustified. What started as a little misunderstanding between us seems to be getting blown out of proportion by him.Quick backstory; where I live we have a laundromat in the apartment complex that all the tenants can use. It can only be used by one person at a time and you have to book an appointment to use it, either that or you can take another person's appointment after 30 minutes if they don't show up to theirs.Anyway, this guy lives door to door to me. Yesterday, I had booked an appointment to use the laundromat between 1pm-4pm. You can book appointments online, which I did earlier during the day.I got home around 1:00, grabbed my laundry and was on my way around 1:10. Then I meet my neighbor outside of his door, with a hamper in front of him. He asks me if I'm about to use the laundromat and I said yes so he said "oh, you go right ahead, I have an appointment booked later anyway". To which I reply "okay thanks, although I'm the one who has this appointment now" I said and laughed a little. I did feel like something was a bit off about him, it was something in his eyes. So for some reason, I expected there to be some kind of aftermath.I do my laundry, everything's fine. Then around 6pm he sends me a text on Facebook Messenger. So this guy has managed to find my first and last name and then he found me on Facebook to send me a long message. That's creepy on it's own. (I wish I could send a screenshot of the messages he has sent me, but they're in Swedish. I can try to translate them in the comments if anyone is interested.)In the message, he felt like he had to explain himself and what had happened from his point of view. And he wanted to assure me that our discussion was an amicable one. Using lots of caps. Explaining to me that there has been problems with the booking system, that I should join this group for all the tenants to get more information about what's going on in the building.I didn't want to set him off (since I don't trust this guy) by not answering, so I replied, told him that I understand and that it was completely fine. I told him that I hope I didn't come off as rude, and that if I did I'm sorry. I thanked him for giving me the advice about the group and I asked him if it was a Facebook group or where I could find it (I know now I shouldn't have asked, but I was just trying to be nice). I also thanked him for offering to let me go ahead, in case none of us would've booked, it was very nice of him.He then sends me another long message trying to explain everything. He is telling me that I didn't sound rude at all and goes on to explain a little bit more.He then sends me another message explain a bit further.Then another, again, explaining things a bit further. After which he promises to not send me anymore messages. And he wishes me a good life and a good weekend.I respond, thank him for the information, tell him that I'm going to join the group and that I wish him a good weekend himself.Everything is okay, so far. But then this guy, just an hour ago, when it was 1am here he sends me this long messages, longer than all his previous messages combined. Again explaining himself and is talking about society and how he's different than everyone else and bla bla.He is starts the message of with "If you actually got mad, well, that's pretty ridiculous, isn't it?"This might sounds stupid as hell, but I can't sleep now. I actually feel afraid that this is going to escalate. That he's not going to give up and that he's going to continue this in some weird way. Maybe I'm getting way too worked up over this, but why can't he just let it go? Why is he still going on about this 1 ½ day after? Even though we had already resolved it.He's a very big guy too, I wouldn't stand a chance against him if he tried anything. What can I even do in this situation to not escalate things?TL;DR: Got into a misunderstanding with my neighbor, he finds me on Facebook Messenger and starts sending me long messages and he's not stopping. This is making me feel very uncomfortable.