I am very curious and concerned

So last week, me (21m) and my girlfriend (21F) we're hanging out on her apartment and things got spicy so we decided to have some fun. After some foreplay, that's when PIV began. We were having a very good time and after 5-7 minutes of missionary, she wanted to be on top because that's one of her favorite positions. This is when the problem began. All was normal until we switched positions and for some reason, I got soft out of nowhere (I didn't cum). She noticed this and decided to arouse me by playing with me. It worked but then I got soft again. I felt my confidence go down and I kind of panicked but she was very supportive, didn't make fun of me, and just told me it was ok. Plus I think I got her off during foreplay cause her legs we're shaking. Anyways, I felt like shit for going soft and she repeatedly said that its ok and that shit happens. My mind was in a spiral and my self esteem was sinking fast.

2 days later, after making her lunch, we got in the mood again but then here's the thing. This time was different. I never got soft and we ended up having sex for 30 minutes. So much that we ended up fucking on the floor. That boosted me up again. Felt my confidence go back up. Sort of like a redemption type feeling that I got to do that.

2 days later, we got in the mood again and decided to have sex. This time was just like the first. After foreplay, we did PIV. When we decided to switch position, I got soft AGAIN. Panic started to consume my mind. Same thing, she tried to play with me it worked and she stuck it in and started riding and then I got soft again. She was very supportive and understanding so she never made fun or ridiculed me.

Guys, I have no idea what is happening and its kind of concerning me. Is it because I was tired? (because I go to the gym). Is it because I was nervous, which I never am around with her. I don't know if this might be a factor but I watch porn every other day??? I don't wanna say anything yet because I'm pretty young. It is slowly consuming my mind but I haven't caved in yet. Please, I would like some insight on my current situation.



Submitted January 24, 2020 at 12:05AM

So last week, me (21m) and my girlfriend (21F) we're hanging out on her apartment and things got spicy so we decided to have some fun. After some foreplay, that's when PIV began. We were having a very good time and after 5-7 minutes of missionary, she wanted to be on top because that's one of her favorite positions. This is when the problem began. All was normal until we switched positions and for some reason, I got soft out of nowhere (I didn't cum). She noticed this and decided to arouse me by playing with me. It worked but then I got soft again. I felt my confidence go down and I kind of panicked but she was very supportive, didn't make fun of me, and just told me it was ok. Plus I think I got her off during foreplay cause her legs we're shaking. Anyways, I felt like shit for going soft and she repeatedly said that its ok and that shit happens. My mind was in a spiral and my self esteem was sinking fast.2 days later, after making her lunch, we got in the mood again but then here's the thing. This time was different. I never got soft and we ended up having sex for 30 minutes. So much that we ended up fucking on the floor. That boosted me up again. Felt my confidence go back up. Sort of like a redemption type feeling that I got to do that.2 days later, we got in the mood again and decided to have sex. This time was just like the first. After foreplay, we did PIV. When we decided to switch position, I got soft AGAIN. Panic started to consume my mind. Same thing, she tried to play with me it worked and she stuck it in and started riding and then I got soft again. She was very supportive and understanding so she never made fun or ridiculed me.Guys, I have no idea what is happening and its kind of concerning me. Is it because I was tired? (because I go to the gym). Is it because I was nervous, which I never am around with her. I don't know if this might be a factor but I watch porn every other day??? I don't wanna say anything yet because I'm pretty young. It is slowly consuming my mind but I haven't caved in yet. Please, I would like some insight on my current situation.
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