Girl (19F) seems really into me (M20), but

There's a girl in my class. We've been working together all semester and last week we had to break off from the rest of the class and work completely alone together for the first time, and for reasons that don't really matter. During that time, I felt a connection I have never felt before with someone. I sort of made a move, but I don't think it was direct enough for her. I'll discuss later. In general, I feel like it's pretty clear that she likes me, but I do doubt my instincts due to some past relationships and other things...

Good news: she seemed to be a lot more vulnerable around me in private - a ton of laughing and smiling, a little bit of anxiousness, and really a different inflection in her voice - excitement and nervousness. Almost childish and immature. She teased me a bit, basically said that our personalities are a good balance for each other, and that she was excited to work alone and away from everyone else. She has grown to be pretty comfortable with me physically as well - she doesn't pull away from my touch, and is often pretty close to me.

Now these are all what I assume to be good signs... but there are a few things hanging over my head. First, she recently went out with another guy. I'm pretty sure they're not in a relationship; I think they just do date nights for school and shit together. Might be a close friend, but idk. Second, I have her number, but we haven't actively talked about anything except class. Maybe I should try it? Third, well.. my attempt at making a move. Some restaurant came up in conversation the other day when we were alone. We checked out the location and the menu and she seemed really excited about it. I said we gotta go sometime but I didn't get a yes or a no. It wasn't awkward though. She still seemed really playful and happy to be there with me. Maybe I wasn't direct enough? I think I'll be alone with her again next week - I guess I should just straight up ask her to go out with me? I feel like I've finally found someone who I have true chemistry with. I really want this. If I find out she's actually taken or that I'm just a close friend to her, or that I'm being led on, my heart's gonna fuckin sink.

What should I do?



Submitted November 15, 2019 at 12:04AM

There's a girl in my class. We've been working together all semester and last week we had to break off from the rest of the class and work completely alone together for the first time, and for reasons that don't really matter. During that time, I felt a connection I have never felt before with someone. I sort of made a move, but I don't think it was direct enough for her. I'll discuss later. In general, I feel like it's pretty clear that she likes me, but I do doubt my instincts due to some past relationships and other things...Good news: she seemed to be a lot more vulnerable around me in private - a ton of laughing and smiling, a little bit of anxiousness, and really a different inflection in her voice - excitement and nervousness. Almost childish and immature. She teased me a bit, basically said that our personalities are a good balance for each other, and that she was excited to work alone and away from everyone else. She has grown to be pretty comfortable with me physically as well - she doesn't pull away from my touch, and is often pretty close to me.Now these are all what I assume to be good signs... but there are a few things hanging over my head. First, she recently went out with another guy. I'm pretty sure they're not in a relationship; I think they just do date nights for school and shit together. Might be a close friend, but idk. Second, I have her number, but we haven't actively talked about anything except class. Maybe I should try it? Third, well.. my attempt at making a move. Some restaurant came up in conversation the other day when we were alone. We checked out the location and the menu and she seemed really excited about it. I said we gotta go sometime but I didn't get a yes or a no. It wasn't awkward though. She still seemed really playful and happy to be there with me. Maybe I wasn't direct enough? I think I'll be alone with her again next week - I guess I should just straight up ask her to go out with me? I feel like I've finally found someone who I have true chemistry with. I really want this. If I find out she's actually taken or that I'm just a close friend to her, or that I'm being led on, my heart's gonna fuckin sink.What should I do?
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