Guys, any advice for me?

So I’m not sure how to even write this post but I really would like to get a guys perspective of maybe where I’m going wrong in ‘dating’/interacting with guys. I’ve had one serious long term relationship from the end of junior year of high school to the summer before my freshman year of college, which is super young but I’d say it was a pretty good experience. I didn’t start dating or even looking at other guys for a year after and spent that time working on myself and my goals. Then I had a weird situationship with a guy I met in one of my classes that was met with varying levels of rejection throughout it all but we’re still close friends. Just this past year in August I downloaded some dating apps. I made some good connections and of course had some great hookups that I accepted were just that, but i’m often met with either two lines of rejection: “you’re a really great girl blah blah I’m just not looking for anything serious.” Or “it’s just physical chemistry/ there’s no connection”. This is after them hinting at something more or even flat out telling me they like me? And a lot of these guys shortly after enter into some sort of more serious monogamous relationship with a different girl. Is there something I could be doing wrong in my approach to dating that could be scaring guys off? I’m not necessarily looking for my future husband right now but I’d like to have something real as I’m getting ready to finish undergrad and go out into the Adult World, haha. I often feel like I see the good in others but it’s never reciprocated. I’m kind of at loss and after building myself up so much to put myself back on the dating scene I almost want to give up completely.

Submitted June 05, 2019 at 12:15AM

So I’m not sure how to even write this post but I really would like to get a guys perspective of maybe where I’m going wrong in ‘dating’/interacting with guys. I’ve had one serious long term relationship from the end of junior year of high school to the summer before my freshman year of college, which is super young but I’d say it was a pretty good experience. I didn’t start dating or even looking at other guys for a year after and spent that time working on myself and my goals. Then I had a weird situationship with a guy I met in one of my classes that was met with varying levels of rejection throughout it all but we’re still close friends. Just this past year in August I downloaded some dating apps. I made some good connections and of course had some great hookups that I accepted were just that, but i’m often met with either two lines of rejection: “you’re a really great girl blah blah I’m just not looking for anything serious.” Or “it’s just physical chemistry/ there’s no connection”. This is after them hinting at something more or even flat out telling me they like me? And a lot of these guys shortly after enter into some sort of more serious monogamous relationship with a different girl. Is there something I could be doing wrong in my approach to dating that could be scaring guys off? I’m not necessarily looking for my future husband right now but I’d like to have something real as I’m getting ready to finish undergrad and go out into the Adult World, haha. I often feel like I see the good in others but it’s never reciprocated. I’m kind of at loss and after building myself up so much to put myself back on the dating scene I almost want to give up completely.