I[F28] snooped on my boyfriend's [M27] fb messenger chat, and found something bad..

Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year, and everything has been going very well up until this point. We clicked from the start, and I've never felt so loved and connected to anyone before, but right now I feel betrayed.

So I'll get to the point. I was on my boyfriend's computer checking my email, when a message chat popped up. It was one of his close female friends, who I know well. I occasionally chat to her through his messenger app, which he is happy for me to do. After a brief back and forth, I got curious about what pictures they had sent each other (yeah I know, I really shouldn't have done it and I regret it) and saw that my boyfriend had sent her a load of nudes I had sent him early on into us seeing each other. He sent them months ago, and hasn't sent any more recent ones (not that this makes a huge difference I don't think)

I looked back through the chat, and they basically just were complimentary about the nudes, but he acknowledged that if i knew he had sent them on to her I would "kill him". He knew I wouldn't want my nudes sent out without my permission, and did it anyway. This feels to me like a huge breach of trust?

Am I within my rights to break up over this? I would be heartbroken, but I'm not sure I could regain trust back after this. I am also not sure how to bring this up to him, do I just say I snooped and bare the consequences? It has really made me see him in a different light, and I can't forget about it.

Any advice would be welcome!

TLDR - I snooped (wrongly) and discovered my SO sent a few of my nudes to a female friend behind my back. What should I do?



Submitted July 28, 2019 at 11:48PM

Me and my boyfriend have been together just over a year, and everything has been going very well up until this point. We clicked from the start, and I've never felt so loved and connected to anyone before, but right now I feel betrayed.So I'll get to the point. I was on my boyfriend's computer checking my email, when a message chat popped up. It was one of his close female friends, who I know well. I occasionally chat to her through his messenger app, which he is happy for me to do. After a brief back and forth, I got curious about what pictures they had sent each other (yeah I know, I really shouldn't have done it and I regret it) and saw that my boyfriend had sent her a load of nudes I had sent him early on into us seeing each other. He sent them months ago, and hasn't sent any more recent ones (not that this makes a huge difference I don't think)I looked back through the chat, and they basically just were complimentary about the nudes, but he acknowledged that if i knew he had sent them on to her I would "kill him". He knew I wouldn't want my nudes sent out without my permission, and did it anyway. This feels to me like a huge breach of trust?Am I within my rights to break up over this? I would be heartbroken, but I'm not sure I could regain trust back after this. I am also not sure how to bring this up to him, do I just say I snooped and bare the consequences? It has really made me see him in a different light, and I can't forget about it.Any advice would be welcome!TLDR - I snooped (wrongly) and discovered my SO sent a few of my nudes to a female friend behind my back. What should I do?
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