How many times have you been ghosted, and what did you learn?

I just realized I've been ghosted after a two month thing with someone I connected with online. It's confusing and very disappointing, not that I expected much out of it to begin with, but I'm trying my best to remember it has more to do with the person than it does me. This is probably the third time I've been ghosted over something that lasted longer than a month. What I've learned is that worst ghostings are the ones you absolutely don't see coming. There were no arguments, no real signs (in hindsight, I could maybe take an educated guess on what happened, but won't ever know for sure...) and honestly, right before the person ceased communication, communication was fine and being efforted on their part just as much as mine.

The thing I find really disturbing and discouraging, though, is that you can meet someone who seems to share the same dating styles and even discuss how you both feel that ghosting is a terrible thing to do and you'd never do it to someone, and yet, it's those same people who do it. That is the thing I find the most fucked up, because it really makes you wonder who, if anyone these days, you can honestly believe anymore.

I'm very much in agreeance with all the psychologists out there who say t's a form of emotional abuse because of how it leaves a person without closure and trying to sort it all out.

How many times have you been ghosted, and what did you learn?

Submitted May 23, 2019 at 01:59AM

I just realized I've been ghosted after a two month thing with someone I connected with online. It's confusing and very disappointing, not that I expected much out of it to begin with, but I'm trying my best to remember it has more to do with the person than it does me. This is probably the third time I've been ghosted over something that lasted longer than a month. What I've learned is that worst ghostings are the ones you absolutely don't see coming. There were no arguments, no real signs (in hindsight, I could maybe take an educated guess on what happened, but won't ever know for sure...) and honestly, right before the person ceased communication, communication was fine and being efforted on their part just as much as mine.The thing I find really disturbing and discouraging, though, is that you can meet someone who seems to share the same dating styles and even discuss how you both feel that ghosting is a terrible thing to do and you'd never do it to someone, and yet, it's those same people who do it. That is the thing I find the most fucked up, because it really makes you wonder who, if anyone these days, you can honestly believe anymore.I'm very much in agreeance with all the psychologists out there who say t's a form of emotional abuse because of how it leaves a person without closure and trying to sort it all out.How many times have you been ghosted, and what did you learn?