I need help telling a friend something important without them getting suspicious!!

Im sorry this story is crazy, I'll try to keep it simple. My (23F) childhood best friend (24NB) has been in a relationship with this guy (24M) for 8 years. I didnt mind him much, but at this point their relationship has gotten so toxic (for reasons that I wont go into) that it's hard for me and many other ppl to see why they are still together, but I have respected my friend's feelings for him, and even when I felt weird about them getting engaged bc I felt my friend deserved way better, i kept my mouth shut.

Another friend (20sF) who left our area a while ago is coming to visit in a couple of days, and she told me that my best friend's fiance touched her inappropriately and without her permission a few years back. She decided she wants to tell our friend when she is here visiting and wants me to be there with her, so I've been thinking of ways to coordinate a time and place when we can be alone without my best friend's fiance around.

I'm seeing my best friend tonight and their fiance will be there, but I don't know how to bring up possibly seeing our other friend without him around and without making him or my best friend suspicious. Please help!

Tldr: I need help coordinating how to have a meet up with my 2 friends without my best friend's fiance knowing.



Submitted December 11, 2019 at 12:21AM

Im sorry this story is crazy, I'll try to keep it simple. My (23F) childhood best friend (24NB) has been in a relationship with this guy (24M) for 8 years. I didnt mind him much, but at this point their relationship has gotten so toxic (for reasons that I wont go into) that it's hard for me and many other ppl to see why they are still together, but I have respected my friend's feelings for him, and even when I felt weird about them getting engaged bc I felt my friend deserved way better, i kept my mouth shut.Another friend (20sF) who left our area a while ago is coming to visit in a couple of days, and she told me that my best friend's fiance touched her inappropriately and without her permission a few years back. She decided she wants to tell our friend when she is here visiting and wants me to be there with her, so I've been thinking of ways to coordinate a time and place when we can be alone without my best friend's fiance around.I'm seeing my best friend tonight and their fiance will be there, but I don't know how to bring up possibly seeing our other friend without him around and without making him or my best friend suspicious. Please help!Tldr: I need help coordinating how to have a meet up with my 2 friends without my best friend's fiance knowing.
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