Question for the women: Would you be put off by a guy with a very small social life?

I am in my early 20s and I like this girl that sits next to me in a music class in uni and I asked her out to coffee and she accepted and gave me her instagram. I followed her back and am going to set a date soon.

She is very nice and easy-going and fun to talk to and she seems to have her life well in order. She climbs and hikes and plays banjo and has lots of friends and really seems to do a lot of things. I think she might kinda like me as well.

I am new to the city and have no friends outside of work and a couple bandmates who are in their 50's with kids as old as I am. I am autistic and always found it hard to make friends.

I am not insecure or uncomfortable with myself. I am good at school and am well into a computer science degree. I work long hours as a line cook at an established restaurant. I play many instruments and have been regularly writing and producing my own music since I was 15. I have written probably 50 songs, some that I think are decent. I think I am a hard-working and talented guy, but I feel my lack of a social life really really works against me. I really don't hang out with people outside of work and band rehearsal. Not to mention I am slightly awkward when first meeting new people. I just came out of a long relationship where my girlfriend had to move out of the apartment and it's put perspective on my lonely life. I don't mind having a very small social life, but I think most women will find it very off-putting.

Submitted September 27, 2022 at 01:03AM

I am in my early 20s and I like this girl that sits next to me in a music class in uni and I asked her out to coffee and she accepted and gave me her instagram. I followed her back and am going to set a date soon.She is very nice and easy-going and fun to talk to and she seems to have her life well in order. She climbs and hikes and plays banjo and has lots of friends and really seems to do a lot of things. I think she might kinda like me as well.I am new to the city and have no friends outside of work and a couple bandmates who are in their 50's with kids as old as I am. I am autistic and always found it hard to make friends.I am not insecure or uncomfortable with myself. I am good at school and am well into a computer science degree. I work long hours as a line cook at an established restaurant. I play many instruments and have been regularly writing and producing my own music since I was 15. I have written probably 50 songs, some that I think are decent. I think I am a hard-working and talented guy, but I feel my lack of a social life really really works against me. I really don't hang out with people outside of work and band rehearsal. Not to mention I am slightly awkward when first meeting new people. I just came out of a long relationship where my girlfriend had to move out of the apartment and it's put perspective on my lonely life. I don't mind having a very small social life, but I think most women will find it very off-putting.