Unless you are in an established relationship with someone, there needs to be a degree of emotional detachment regarding a potential future with them!

It’s natural to want a future with someone you find attractive, or think you have a connection with.

However, projecting romantic feelings onto someone you barely know - or a “friend” that you’ve never been romantic with - often leads to neediness and insecure attachment.

The fantasy perception of the person overtakes who they actually are. They are often placed on pedestal unnecessarily. In an attempt to keep this idealized person in your life, the interactions become less natural, more focused on pleasing them, rather than being yourself and allowing things to develop naturally.

When you meet someone you like, it’s fine to appreciate them, but be wary of forming an emotional attachment to them. There has to be a phase that is a trial period. Not only do they need to learn about you, but you also need to determine if they fit what YOU want.

Have fun, let things unfold naturally. A relationship will develop without planning or thought if you both have chemistry. Trying to force things to fit a romantic fantasy never works.

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Submitted September 27, 2022 at 12:12AM

It’s natural to want a future with someone you find attractive, or think you have a connection with.However, projecting romantic feelings onto someone you barely know - or a “friend” that you’ve never been romantic with - often leads to neediness and insecure attachment.The fantasy perception of the person overtakes who they actually are. They are often placed on pedestal unnecessarily. In an attempt to keep this idealized person in your life, the interactions become less natural, more focused on pleasing them, rather than being yourself and allowing things to develop naturally.When you meet someone you like, it’s fine to appreciate them, but be wary of forming an emotional attachment to them. There has to be a phase that is a trial period. Not only do they need to learn about you, but you also need to determine if they fit what YOU want.Have fun, let things unfold naturally. A relationship will develop without planning or thought if you both have chemistry. Trying to force things to fit a romantic fantasy never works.r/BrosDatingAdvice