What do I do?

Been married for 14 years. I have a decent job that provides for my wife and 2 kids. She’s a stay at home mom that volunteers for school/church. Etc. I enjoy the time I get to spend with my kids. My wife always seems so stressed out though. Every other month or so she will find some random thing that sets her off and she’ll threaten to leave me. This has honestly been going on for years. Just random small things. I work, I cook most dinners we have, I do the dishes at least 50/50. Yet she’s always finding some fault some small thing to berate me for. Recently she said “why would you ever think of using that plate. That’s a hand wash only plate.” When I was cooking dinner. (Even though I’ve used it a thousand times and put it in the dishwasher a thousand times). I just feel like she tries to find things to get mad at me about. The other night I confronted her calmly and let her know that I always felt like I had to walk on eggshells to try to keep from getting yelled at. She said I shouldn’t feel that way. I found a text to her sis where she told her she didn’t love me anymore. She said I’m a good guy and I work a lot for her and our kids but she didn’t know what to do. There has never been any infidelity or even serious accusations. Is it possible that she just doesn’t love me? I’m hopeful that she’s stressed about all her responsibilities. And she’s working to reduce them. And she’ll come around. Sorry for the long post. I just don’t know what to do. I feel abandoned.

Submitted May 12, 2019 at 04:49AM

Been married for 14 years. I have a decent job that provides for my wife and 2 kids. She’s a stay at home mom that volunteers for school/church. Etc. I enjoy the time I get to spend with my kids. My wife always seems so stressed out though. Every other month or so she will find some random thing that sets her off and she’ll threaten to leave me. This has honestly been going on for years. Just random small things. I work, I cook most dinners we have, I do the dishes at least 50/50. Yet she’s always finding some fault some small thing to berate me for. Recently she said “why would you ever think of using that plate. That’s a hand wash only plate.” When I was cooking dinner. (Even though I’ve used it a thousand times and put it in the dishwasher a thousand times). I just feel like she tries to find things to get mad at me about. The other night I confronted her calmly and let her know that I always felt like I had to walk on eggshells to try to keep from getting yelled at. She said I shouldn’t feel that way. I found a text to her sis where she told her she didn’t love me anymore. She said I’m a good guy and I work a lot for her and our kids but she didn’t know what to do. There has never been any infidelity or even serious accusations. Is it possible that she just doesn’t love me? I’m hopeful that she’s stressed about all her responsibilities. And she’s working to reduce them. And she’ll come around. Sorry for the long post. I just don’t know what to do. I feel abandoned.