Wife wants a divorce.

First off. This is a throw away. I need some help. My wife and I have been arguing more since about april. We got married in December. I haven't been the best husband. We've had a lot of distance between us ( like actual distance). Recently arguments got more heated and I don't express my emotions very well. I don't love her right and I know this but I'm trying to fix that. She's asked me to try before and I put effort but not enough. She asked for divorce the other day. This was when I was trying to get her to move up here. We spoke about it to counselor with her over the phone and seemed to deescalate the situation. She wanted to take a break and focus on ourselves. I told her I wanted to at least attempt some counseling together. She's removed me from her Instagram bio and removed her relationship status on Facebook. Her friends are the ones that are telling her to break up. I don't think they know we're married. Anyways I called her earlier today we talked for a bit and I said I loved her and she said she loved me back. But tonight I called her to tell her that I was going to come home soon to visit her visit family too because life has been really stressful lately. I miss her so much and I feel so lonely. But I feel voice mail saying that my car broke down because it did and I told her that I was planning on coming home to. I snapchatted her after she got off work because I noticed she'd opened mine and didn't reply. And I asked if we could talk and she said not tonight we can talk tomorrow. She said she had a good day at work and then I said goodnight I love you. All she said back was good night. I'm lost Reddit I've talked to everyone I'm trying my hardest I don't want to lose her. I'm too scared to live a life without her.



Submitted May 12, 2019 at 06:00AM

First off. This is a throw away. I need some help. My wife and I have been arguing more since about april. We got married in December. I haven't been the best husband. We've had a lot of distance between us ( like actual distance). Recently arguments got more heated and I don't express my emotions very well. I don't love her right and I know this but I'm trying to fix that. She's asked me to try before and I put effort but not enough. She asked for divorce the other day. This was when I was trying to get her to move up here. We spoke about it to counselor with her over the phone and seemed to deescalate the situation. She wanted to take a break and focus on ourselves. I told her I wanted to at least attempt some counseling together. She's removed me from her Instagram bio and removed her relationship status on Facebook. Her friends are the ones that are telling her to break up. I don't think they know we're married. Anyways I called her earlier today we talked for a bit and I said I loved her and she said she loved me back. But tonight I called her to tell her that I was going to come home soon to visit her visit family too because life has been really stressful lately. I miss her so much and I feel so lonely. But I feel voice mail saying that my car broke down because it did and I told her that I was planning on coming home to. I snapchatted her after she got off work because I noticed she'd opened mine and didn't reply. And I asked if we could talk and she said not tonight we can talk tomorrow. She said she had a good day at work and then I said goodnight I love you. All she said back was good night. I'm lost Reddit I've talked to everyone I'm trying my hardest I don't want to lose her. I'm too scared to live a life without her.
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