How do I (24m) cut ties from this girl (32f) who I love with all my heart? (4 year relationship)

I posted in here a couple times for advice about her. Well against everyone’s advice i have her a second chance, and she done the same thing to me again. Told me she was going to bed, lied, and went out to the bar with her friends. I found out cuz I seen a picture on Facebook with her in the background and when I confronted her about it she didn’t have much to say besides “oh my god” and “you’re crazy” and “I done nothing wrong”.

So I told her exactly how I felt, that I’m done with her and her manipulative lying bullshit. I’m done being abused. That as soon as I get the last of my shit out of her house I’m cutting all ties. But how can I do it?

I love her with all my heart still. I can’t stand the thought of her moving on with someone else. I can’t picture myself moving on with another woman that’s not her. I planned to marry this woman and give her everything. We were talking about having children. And now this? Being lied to almost every single weekend about where she’s going and what she’s doing.

If she had told me both times I caught her partying that she was going to do it before hand I wouldn’t have even cared really. I might not agree with her partying while I’m away at work but whatever she’s her own woman. I’m not going to hold her back. But to fucking lie to me about it? That’s a whole different ball game.

I want to cut this manipulative, abusive woman out of my life but it feels like I’m losing my best friend. It feels like I’m cutting a piece of my heart away and sending it out the door with a big “fuck you”. How do I unattach myself from this woman that I love so much, that I can’t trust as far as I can throw?

Tl;dr - woman I love keeps lying to me. Can’t be trusted, but I can’t let her go because I love her so much. How do I unattach myself from this woman?



Submitted October 27, 2019 at 12:11AM

I posted in here a couple times for advice about her. Well against everyone’s advice i have her a second chance, and she done the same thing to me again. Told me she was going to bed, lied, and went out to the bar with her friends. I found out cuz I seen a picture on Facebook with her in the background and when I confronted her about it she didn’t have much to say besides “oh my god” and “you’re crazy” and “I done nothing wrong”.So I told her exactly how I felt, that I’m done with her and her manipulative lying bullshit. I’m done being abused. That as soon as I get the last of my shit out of her house I’m cutting all ties. But how can I do it?I love her with all my heart still. I can’t stand the thought of her moving on with someone else. I can’t picture myself moving on with another woman that’s not her. I planned to marry this woman and give her everything. We were talking about having children. And now this? Being lied to almost every single weekend about where she’s going and what she’s doing.If she had told me both times I caught her partying that she was going to do it before hand I wouldn’t have even cared really. I might not agree with her partying while I’m away at work but whatever she’s her own woman. I’m not going to hold her back. But to fucking lie to me about it? That’s a whole different ball game.I want to cut this manipulative, abusive woman out of my life but it feels like I’m losing my best friend. It feels like I’m cutting a piece of my heart away and sending it out the door with a big “fuck you”. How do I unattach myself from this woman that I love so much, that I can’t trust as far as I can throw?Tl;dr - woman I love keeps lying to me. Can’t be trusted, but I can’t let her go because I love her so much. How do I unattach myself from this woman?
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