This guy (23, M) has a bad history with my friend (21, F) and I’m stuck in between.

I have been talking to this boy I met one dating app. We have some mutual friends so it came up with one of my friends. I asked her a little about him and she told me something incriminating about him but then told me he’s aright and I should see him. Few days later, this boy saw the same friend on my story and got repulsed at how I was friends with her. I asked him what’s wrong and he told me how she goes around making lies and conspiring against people. I told him what she told me about him that I didn’t make much of. Turns out, that was a blatant lie too. Now my friend has always been great with me so all of this is news to me. But this guy was really defensive and hellbent on how she has ruined his and many lives. I told him I didn’t want to be involved in drama, I don’t discredit his experience however my experience is different so I can’t wrap my head around it. To which he quotes to me, “the darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis” as if I need to choose between them. I’m not too close to either of them but I was really looking forward to seeing him and I don’t know where this leaves us. This happened a day before we planned to meet. What should I do? How should I approach him? Should I text him with a different topic?

Tl;dr: I am talking to a guy who has bad history with my friend and that might just ruin things between us. What should I do?



Submitted August 12, 2020 at 12:10AM

I have been talking to this boy I met one dating app. We have some mutual friends so it came up with one of my friends. I asked her a little about him and she told me something incriminating about him but then told me he’s aright and I should see him. Few days later, this boy saw the same friend on my story and got repulsed at how I was friends with her. I asked him what’s wrong and he told me how she goes around making lies and conspiring against people. I told him what she told me about him that I didn’t make much of. Turns out, that was a blatant lie too. Now my friend has always been great with me so all of this is news to me. But this guy was really defensive and hellbent on how she has ruined his and many lives. I told him I didn’t want to be involved in drama, I don’t discredit his experience however my experience is different so I can’t wrap my head around it. To which he quotes to me, “the darkest places in hell are reserved for those who maintain their neutrality in times of moral crisis” as if I need to choose between them. I’m not too close to either of them but I was really looking forward to seeing him and I don’t know where this leaves us. This happened a day before we planned to meet. What should I do? How should I approach him? Should I text him with a different topic?Tl;dr: I am talking to a guy who has bad history with my friend and that might just ruin things between us. What should I do?
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