How do/should I get in touch with a friend I just slept with when his phone is broken and the situation is kind of weird

If you check my post history, I already posted something on this situation, but this is something I’m just now worried about.

So, I (22 f) hooked up with a friend (22 m) who happens to be related to the person I live with (26 m) who also happens to be an ex. We’ve been broken up for 2 years, if that’s relevant. As of right now, my roommate doesn’t care at all. He thinks this is funny. I’ve been friends with the younger one for 8 years, which is definitely before I knew my ex.

It would be nice to talk about it. The thing is, his phone is broken. He’s getting it fixed for Christmas, but that’s a ways away. I want to talk to him, and I kind of want to do it again, but the only way to get a message to him now would be to ask his brother, which feels very weird for me. I could get to him through his roommate, but I really don’t like the guy and I don’t want him involved.

I know where he works and lives. I’ve been to his house for hangouts before, but I also just don’t want to randomly show up. I do have his shirt, which he accidentally left.

Should I just wait until we end up in the same place naturally, or do I try to show up somewhere to give him his shirt back? I think not being able to talk to him is making my anxiety about this way, way worse. It wasn’t awkward when I took him home in the morning, at least.

tldr; hooked up with a guy, the situation is convoluted, and his phone is broken. What do I do now?



Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:43PM

If you check my post history, I already posted something on this situation, but this is something I’m just now worried about.So, I (22 f) hooked up with a friend (22 m) who happens to be related to the person I live with (26 m) who also happens to be an ex. We’ve been broken up for 2 years, if that’s relevant. As of right now, my roommate doesn’t care at all. He thinks this is funny. I’ve been friends with the younger one for 8 years, which is definitely before I knew my ex.It would be nice to talk about it. The thing is, his phone is broken. He’s getting it fixed for Christmas, but that’s a ways away. I want to talk to him, and I kind of want to do it again, but the only way to get a message to him now would be to ask his brother, which feels very weird for me. I could get to him through his roommate, but I really don’t like the guy and I don’t want him involved.I know where he works and lives. I’ve been to his house for hangouts before, but I also just don’t want to randomly show up. I do have his shirt, which he accidentally left.Should I just wait until we end up in the same place naturally, or do I try to show up somewhere to give him his shirt back? I think not being able to talk to him is making my anxiety about this way, way worse. It wasn’t awkward when I took him home in the morning, at least.tldr; hooked up with a guy, the situation is convoluted, and his phone is broken. What do I do now?
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