My boyfriend (19) of over a year seems completely unbothered by his best friend (18F) acting like a bitch towards me (17F)

Before I start I would like to comment on the age gap. He literally just turned 19 and be 18 in a couple of months. We started dating when I was 16 and he was 17.

Right, my boyfriend had this friend, let's call her Jane, who has pretty much been making snide comments to me, throwing me dirty looks and completely ignoring me for about 6 months now. It took me a while to talk to my boyfriend about it because I was so worried about coming off as a jealous girlfriend if I complained about Jane.

Now it started off as not too bad and I just got a few dirty looks thrown my way but now we're at a point where when he comes back from uni, I won't go out with him and his friends because I don't want to be around her. I do think I was just being a bit too optimistic in thinking that maybe in telling my boyfriend that, he would talk to her because I know that's what I would do if this was the other way around. We ended up having a fight about something unrelated and this was brought up again. I had to tell him that I wanted him to do something about it before he even considered it as a possibility. He just really doesn't seem that bothered by it and it's worrying (not sure if that's the right word but it's the best I can do right now) me.

I can't tell if I'm simply expecting too much of him by thinking he would do something without me explicitly telling him to do something or if I'm over reacting to the situation (would like to clarify I do suffer from depression and anxiety and I know that sometimes I tend to over think things and self sabotage in order to protect myself, I'm working on this in therapy).

TL;DR - boyfriend's best friend is bitchy to me, I don't want to go out with his friends anymore, I had to explicitly tell him to do something about it.

Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:58PM

Before I start I would like to comment on the age gap. He literally just turned 19 and be 18 in a couple of months. We started dating when I was 16 and he was 17.Right, my boyfriend had this friend, let's call her Jane, who has pretty much been making snide comments to me, throwing me dirty looks and completely ignoring me for about 6 months now. It took me a while to talk to my boyfriend about it because I was so worried about coming off as a jealous girlfriend if I complained about Jane.Now it started off as not too bad and I just got a few dirty looks thrown my way but now we're at a point where when he comes back from uni, I won't go out with him and his friends because I don't want to be around her. I do think I was just being a bit too optimistic in thinking that maybe in telling my boyfriend that, he would talk to her because I know that's what I would do if this was the other way around. We ended up having a fight about something unrelated and this was brought up again. I had to tell him that I wanted him to do something about it before he even considered it as a possibility. He just really doesn't seem that bothered by it and it's worrying (not sure if that's the right word but it's the best I can do right now) me.I can't tell if I'm simply expecting too much of him by thinking he would do something without me explicitly telling him to do something or if I'm over reacting to the situation (would like to clarify I do suffer from depression and anxiety and I know that sometimes I tend to over think things and self sabotage in order to protect myself, I'm working on this in therapy).TL;DR - boyfriend's best friend is bitchy to me, I don't want to go out with his friends anymore, I had to explicitly tell him to do something about it.