My (29) boyfriend (28) of two years ex fiancé calls him

My boyfriends ex fiancé calls him. From blocked numbers. Late at night. Probably drunk. She has a boyfriend. We have been together for two years. She called a few months ago when I was there. This is what I had considered the first time. Once she heard me she said my boyfriend was “talking to five other girls’ ok...but anyway she called again recently and he didn’t tell me. I had to ask. I kind of find this weird.

I talk to him about that incident because it was uncomfortable. I try to be open but today I asked if she ever called again and being told the answer was concerning. He said yes. Within the last few months. He didn’t explain why he didn’t mention it. He said he didn’t answer. He also said he likes the ego boost when she calls. I said I think he has the wrong idea of why she calls (it seemed to be disruptive and destructive based last time) And now I’ll never know when she has called unless I specifically ask. It feels wrong to me. If an ex called me I would feel so uncomfortable that I would address it immediately telling them to stop. Him feeling an ego boost from “her misery” as he claims, seems like a cop out for still having feelings for her. This happened earlier today and we are barely speaking. I was trying to act cool but I feel really betrayed and sad. I jump to what else is he hiding. I also wonder how long she’s really been calling and he’s been getting these secret ego boosts having her just an arms length away. We are serious and this is concerning. Thoughts?

Tl;dr boyfriends ex fiancé calls him. I was there once to know she did but he doesn’t tell me about subsequent times. He said he feels an ego boost from this, and from that info I feel his still has feelings. Thoughts?

Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:24PM

My boyfriends ex fiancé calls him. From blocked numbers. Late at night. Probably drunk. She has a boyfriend. We have been together for two years. She called a few months ago when I was there. This is what I had considered the first time. Once she heard me she said my boyfriend was “talking to five other girls’ ok...but anyway she called again recently and he didn’t tell me. I had to ask. I kind of find this weird.I talk to him about that incident because it was uncomfortable. I try to be open but today I asked if she ever called again and being told the answer was concerning. He said yes. Within the last few months. He didn’t explain why he didn’t mention it. He said he didn’t answer. He also said he likes the ego boost when she calls. I said I think he has the wrong idea of why she calls (it seemed to be disruptive and destructive based last time) And now I’ll never know when she has called unless I specifically ask. It feels wrong to me. If an ex called me I would feel so uncomfortable that I would address it immediately telling them to stop. Him feeling an ego boost from “her misery” as he claims, seems like a cop out for still having feelings for her. This happened earlier today and we are barely speaking. I was trying to act cool but I feel really betrayed and sad. I jump to what else is he hiding. I also wonder how long she’s really been calling and he’s been getting these secret ego boosts having her just an arms length away. We are serious and this is concerning. Thoughts?Tl;dr boyfriends ex fiancé calls him. I was there once to know she did but he doesn’t tell me about subsequent times. He said he feels an ego boost from this, and from that info I feel his still has feelings. Thoughts?