Do I (19F) Really Ruin Things For Him (25M)?

I'm going to try to keep this concise, so bare with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. He's a very explosive person and he says some very hurtful things and then apologizes for them almost immediately after. One of the things he almost never apologizes for is when he says I ruin everything for him. I take the fun out of everything and that he never likes going into public with me. The last time he said this, he said he didn't mean it but it wasn't the first time he said it so now I wonder if I'm really that bad.

The most recent example of me ruining something for him is at a hockey game. I bought hockey tickets for our anniversary. We went to the game and we got there late. I don't like big crowds, especially not with someone as explosive as him. The game was already started so I didn't want to walk in front of people's faces, to avoid this I waited in the entrance area where I could still see the game. He starts yelling at me saying I was embarrassing him (even though a bunch of other people were doing it) and how I'm such a baby. But I didn't even do anything. I was just uncomfortable with walking past someone's face while they were trying to see the game. After the game he just continued to scold me about how I ruin every event and how I'm so dramatic. Another thing he brings up about this night was when he asked me to go and buy him a drink, I wanted a souvenir cup but I had to get drinks for both of us so I just got regular bottles. When I got back to him I mentioned how I wanted the cup and he got upset again saying I was making a big deal about nothing, when in reality I wasn't making a big deal at all.

I know this whole thing seems really biased but I'm telling the story to the best of my ability. I wouldn't even care if he wasn't reminding me all of the time how I completely ruined that night and this is isn't the first time this has happened. I don't think I'm that bad, but maybe I really am.

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TL;DR: BF and I go to a hockey game. Game is already started so I stand in entrance so I don't have to obstruct anyone's view. BF calls me an embarrassment and says I ruin everything. Do I?



Submitted November 23, 2019 at 11:30PM

I'm going to try to keep this concise, so bare with me. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. He's a very explosive person and he says some very hurtful things and then apologizes for them almost immediately after. One of the things he almost never apologizes for is when he says I ruin everything for him. I take the fun out of everything and that he never likes going into public with me. The last time he said this, he said he didn't mean it but it wasn't the first time he said it so now I wonder if I'm really that bad.The most recent example of me ruining something for him is at a hockey game. I bought hockey tickets for our anniversary. We went to the game and we got there late. I don't like big crowds, especially not with someone as explosive as him. The game was already started so I didn't want to walk in front of people's faces, to avoid this I waited in the entrance area where I could still see the game. He starts yelling at me saying I was embarrassing him (even though a bunch of other people were doing it) and how I'm such a baby. But I didn't even do anything. I was just uncomfortable with walking past someone's face while they were trying to see the game. After the game he just continued to scold me about how I ruin every event and how I'm so dramatic. Another thing he brings up about this night was when he asked me to go and buy him a drink, I wanted a souvenir cup but I had to get drinks for both of us so I just got regular bottles. When I got back to him I mentioned how I wanted the cup and he got upset again saying I was making a big deal about nothing, when in reality I wasn't making a big deal at all.I know this whole thing seems really biased but I'm telling the story to the best of my ability. I wouldn't even care if he wasn't reminding me all of the time how I completely ruined that night and this is isn't the first time this has happened. I don't think I'm that bad, but maybe I really am.​TL;DR: BF and I go to a hockey game. Game is already started so I stand in entrance so I don't have to obstruct anyone's view. BF calls me an embarrassment and says I ruin everything. Do I?
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