My boyfriend (24M) of 2 years is making me have trust issues.. need help (20F)

I met my current bf when I was 18 and he was 22. We hit it off instantly and quickly moved in together. We have had a rocky relationship, a lot of our stress came from not having enough money, and always being broke. When I met him he was on house arrest for a crime he didn't commit, he couldn't keep a job because of this reason so I was the main one working my ass off. He spent a lot of time at home and his friend moved in with us about 6 months into our relationship. His friend was very disrespectful to me, never picked up after himself, and had took my car multiple times without my permission. He had lived with us for a month and when it was time to pay rent he didn't have his $300 so I told him he had 3 days to pack his shit and get out. This didn't sit well with him obviously and ever since then we have been somewhat enemies. My boyfriend never really stood up to his friend when he knew he was being disrespectful to me, which I didn't like and always told him he didn't need me. I have found tinder on my bf's phone when his friend first moved in and he told me his friend told him to download it. I have always trusted my bf and besides that he has never given me suspicion to think he would cheat on me.

A month ago after we went on vacation together to see his family in Washington DC (where he is from) I left earlier than him and he came back to our city in Texas a week after me. One night he left his phone in my car by mistake and called me from his friends phone telling me to look for it and drop it back to him. I looked all over my car and couldn't find it. I then look in the bottom of my bag (he had told me he forgot his phone in his apt upon me picking him up) and see it there. He had been acting a bit off and I decided to be nosey and look at it (I know that isn't right of me). I found out he had been snapchatting multiple girls and found messages on his phone planning to meet up with a girl the day I left DC. She posted a story on her snap of her in a tight dress and he sent her a message saying "sexy" a few days before I saw these messages. I confronted him about it and he claims he never met up with her and she was just a childhood friend. I tried to break up with him because I no longer trusted him.He wouldn't leave me alone and was taking a lot of drugs and wouldn't leave me alone saying how much he loved me. Just 2 weeks ago we got back together and I'm trying to look past all that happened since I care about him. I still have these feelings he is not being honest and is still talking to girls even though he says he isn't. I did go on a date the time we had broken up and told him about it and he claims he didn't do anything with anyone. I keep questioning myself about our relationship and if he is really being honest with me or not. I need advice, I really don't know what to do. Do you think I overreacted? I really do care about him and love him, but do not trust him.

TL;DR He has been living with this friend who I hate for the past 4 months and keeps saying he will try to get his own place and a car, but doesn't. His friends current gf is a stripper with 3 kids who apparently walks around basically naked and has come onto my bf before. His friend won't allow me to come into their apartment out of his hatred for me.

Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:32PM

I met my current bf when I was 18 and he was 22. We hit it off instantly and quickly moved in together. We have had a rocky relationship, a lot of our stress came from not having enough money, and always being broke. When I met him he was on house arrest for a crime he didn't commit, he couldn't keep a job because of this reason so I was the main one working my ass off. He spent a lot of time at home and his friend moved in with us about 6 months into our relationship. His friend was very disrespectful to me, never picked up after himself, and had took my car multiple times without my permission. He had lived with us for a month and when it was time to pay rent he didn't have his $300 so I told him he had 3 days to pack his shit and get out. This didn't sit well with him obviously and ever since then we have been somewhat enemies. My boyfriend never really stood up to his friend when he knew he was being disrespectful to me, which I didn't like and always told him he didn't need me. I have found tinder on my bf's phone when his friend first moved in and he told me his friend told him to download it. I have always trusted my bf and besides that he has never given me suspicion to think he would cheat on me.A month ago after we went on vacation together to see his family in Washington DC (where he is from) I left earlier than him and he came back to our city in Texas a week after me. One night he left his phone in my car by mistake and called me from his friends phone telling me to look for it and drop it back to him. I looked all over my car and couldn't find it. I then look in the bottom of my bag (he had told me he forgot his phone in his apt upon me picking him up) and see it there. He had been acting a bit off and I decided to be nosey and look at it (I know that isn't right of me). I found out he had been snapchatting multiple girls and found messages on his phone planning to meet up with a girl the day I left DC. She posted a story on her snap of her in a tight dress and he sent her a message saying "sexy" a few days before I saw these messages. I confronted him about it and he claims he never met up with her and she was just a childhood friend. I tried to break up with him because I no longer trusted him.He wouldn't leave me alone and was taking a lot of drugs and wouldn't leave me alone saying how much he loved me. Just 2 weeks ago we got back together and I'm trying to look past all that happened since I care about him. I still have these feelings he is not being honest and is still talking to girls even though he says he isn't. I did go on a date the time we had broken up and told him about it and he claims he didn't do anything with anyone. I keep questioning myself about our relationship and if he is really being honest with me or not. I need advice, I really don't know what to do. Do you think I overreacted? I really do care about him and love him, but do not trust him.TL;DR He has been living with this friend who I hate for the past 4 months and keeps saying he will try to get his own place and a car, but doesn't. His friends current gf is a stripper with 3 kids who apparently walks around basically naked and has come onto my bf before. His friend won't allow me to come into their apartment out of his hatred for me.