My husband has a Grindr

My (26f) husband (26m) had to pull up a ticket from his pictures and was obviously trying to shield me from seeing. (He has had issues with lying to me about financial matters in the past though we have moved past that) I made him give me his phone and there was a picture of a dick. I was obviously upset thinking it was him and he was sending it to people. I questioned him and he said it was just a picture he found online and liked so he kept it. Upon further examination I confirmed that it wasn’t him in the picture. I did however continue to look through his phone. I found Grindr and Whisper. Grinder was him exchanging the dick picture saved in his phone with other guys. A couple suggesting they meet up but no exchange of actual information. The whisper account had stuff about being curious and wanting to experiment while I was out of town. There were also straight up lying posts saying I was pregnant and he was so happy.

He told me he realized he was bi within the past year and this was how he was getting his curiosity out. He claims he never exchanged information(name, number, address) and that he deeply regrets everything. I don’t know if that even matters. I honestly have no clue what to do. I’ve been crying for hours and sick to my stomach. We’ve been married for a couple years and together for almost a decade. I love him and don’t want my marriage to be over. I’m just so lost. I’m too embarrassed to talk to my family, but I need to talk.

Tl:dr husband chatting with men.

Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:48PM

My (26f) husband (26m) had to pull up a ticket from his pictures and was obviously trying to shield me from seeing. (He has had issues with lying to me about financial matters in the past though we have moved past that) I made him give me his phone and there was a picture of a dick. I was obviously upset thinking it was him and he was sending it to people. I questioned him and he said it was just a picture he found online and liked so he kept it. Upon further examination I confirmed that it wasn’t him in the picture. I did however continue to look through his phone. I found Grindr and Whisper. Grinder was him exchanging the dick picture saved in his phone with other guys. A couple suggesting they meet up but no exchange of actual information. The whisper account had stuff about being curious and wanting to experiment while I was out of town. There were also straight up lying posts saying I was pregnant and he was so happy.He told me he realized he was bi within the past year and this was how he was getting his curiosity out. He claims he never exchanged information(name, number, address) and that he deeply regrets everything. I don’t know if that even matters. I honestly have no clue what to do. I’ve been crying for hours and sick to my stomach. We’ve been married for a couple years and together for almost a decade. I love him and don’t want my marriage to be over. I’m just so lost. I’m too embarrassed to talk to my family, but I need to talk.Tl:dr husband chatting with men.