How can I [24F] help my boyfriend [21M] who is now extremelly depressed after I cheated on him? It hurts me to see him bad

I know I am going to get a lot of hate for this, but I do regret what I did and I hate myself for it. He and I have been dating for 3 years and we have a one year old daughter together. I love him so much and he’s the perfect boyfriend, there’s no excuse for what I did. He does a lot around the house; he cooks for us, cleans, and he treats me very well + he’s a great dad. I cheated on him while drunk at a party in which I shouldn’t have been there.

I knew it was a mistake and I should’be just stayed home with him that day. I myself told him the truth and I gave him the space he needed and he luckily decided he would forgive me, but things aren’t right with him. He only goes to work then comes back home to sleep or he sometimes stays up all night and won’t sleep. He alsp randomly gets this super sad look on his face and I can tell when he isn’t feeling. well

He no longer wants to eat anything and he also doesn’t go to the gym or anything from his old daily schedule like before. I want to help him but I don’t know what else to do other than be affectionate with him. Like, I want my relationship to go back how it was before and I want to help dig him out of the hole he is in. What do I do to help him not be depressed anymore?

TL;DR: I cheated on my perfect boyfriend while I was drunk at a party. I confessed to him and he forgave my so we stayed together. He seems really depressed now and I don’t know how to help him or get things back to normal.



Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:55PM

I know I am going to get a lot of hate for this, but I do regret what I did and I hate myself for it. He and I have been dating for 3 years and we have a one year old daughter together. I love him so much and he’s the perfect boyfriend, there’s no excuse for what I did. He does a lot around the house; he cooks for us, cleans, and he treats me very well + he’s a great dad. I cheated on him while drunk at a party in which I shouldn’t have been there.I knew it was a mistake and I should’be just stayed home with him that day. I myself told him the truth and I gave him the space he needed and he luckily decided he would forgive me, but things aren’t right with him. He only goes to work then comes back home to sleep or he sometimes stays up all night and won’t sleep. He alsp randomly gets this super sad look on his face and I can tell when he isn’t feeling. wellHe no longer wants to eat anything and he also doesn’t go to the gym or anything from his old daily schedule like before. I want to help him but I don’t know what else to do other than be affectionate with him. Like, I want my relationship to go back how it was before and I want to help dig him out of the hole he is in. What do I do to help him not be depressed anymore?TL;DR: I cheated on my perfect boyfriend while I was drunk at a party. I confessed to him and he forgave my so we stayed together. He seems really depressed now and I don’t know how to help him or get things back to normal.
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