My boyfriend had been on a dating site for a month while hiding it from me...

M 28 and F 24 years old. Relationship lenght: 1 and a half years

(First post, please be merciful!)

Sorry, it's quite a long read!

A bit more than a month ago I found out my boyfriend had been on a dating site for like a month while hiding it from me. I found out quite randomly and he confessed he'd lost the spark between us and that he wanted to flirt with other girls. He also said he didn't get horny around me anymore.

This was the situation: I had moved to another country to stay with him and this happened after a few months that I'd been there. We lived together for like 2 months before this happened. He said he started craving his space more and more since we started sharing the flat. It was an experiment and apparently we had failed. He had tried to break up with me once already but then felt guilty and said the spark came back too.

After he tried to dump me the first time, I went through a hard time (he was the only friend I had around, I stopped working so I had no reason to go out, I didn't really know anyone else and, worst of all, we had no wifi in the house), I started feeling more and more lonely, had anxiety and panic attacks and felt stuck. He said he could see the state I was in everyday and that I was making no efforts whatsoever to feel better, while I was doing my best to get my shit together, probably failing. I never wanted to be a burden to him and the anxiety increased cause I knew I was.

After finding a new job, I found out about the dating website. I decided to leave him and go back to my home country. We spent time together and he did everything he could to make me see he cared. He said he loved me deeply but he still let me go, even though he was upset about it. Now I'm living at my parents' house wondering if I made the right decision. I feel so hurt sometimes I just want to see him again to scream in his face, and sometimes I miss him so much and want to start over again. But I'm always the one who texts him first, always the one who starts telling him about my day and tries to start a conversation. I asked him to just say it, "I want to break up" but he refuses cause he says he still loves me and cares. What should I do? Go back there and end things properly, face to face? Or just accept that he probably doesn't want to see me again? Cause he confused me a lot.

TL;DR my boyfriend used a dating site for a month, just for flirting, while hiding it from me. He lost the spark and wanted to break up. When I decided to leave he proved to me how much he cares and loves me and confused me badly. Now I'm trying to decide whether to go back or just end it.

Submitted October 12, 2019 at 11:33PM

M 28 and F 24 years old. Relationship lenght: 1 and a half years(First post, please be merciful!)Sorry, it's quite a long read!A bit more than a month ago I found out my boyfriend had been on a dating site for like a month while hiding it from me. I found out quite randomly and he confessed he'd lost the spark between us and that he wanted to flirt with other girls. He also said he didn't get horny around me anymore.This was the situation: I had moved to another country to stay with him and this happened after a few months that I'd been there. We lived together for like 2 months before this happened. He said he started craving his space more and more since we started sharing the flat. It was an experiment and apparently we had failed. He had tried to break up with me once already but then felt guilty and said the spark came back too.After he tried to dump me the first time, I went through a hard time (he was the only friend I had around, I stopped working so I had no reason to go out, I didn't really know anyone else and, worst of all, we had no wifi in the house), I started feeling more and more lonely, had anxiety and panic attacks and felt stuck. He said he could see the state I was in everyday and that I was making no efforts whatsoever to feel better, while I was doing my best to get my shit together, probably failing. I never wanted to be a burden to him and the anxiety increased cause I knew I was.After finding a new job, I found out about the dating website. I decided to leave him and go back to my home country. We spent time together and he did everything he could to make me see he cared. He said he loved me deeply but he still let me go, even though he was upset about it. Now I'm living at my parents' house wondering if I made the right decision. I feel so hurt sometimes I just want to see him again to scream in his face, and sometimes I miss him so much and want to start over again. But I'm always the one who texts him first, always the one who starts telling him about my day and tries to start a conversation. I asked him to just say it, "I want to break up" but he refuses cause he says he still loves me and cares. What should I do? Go back there and end things properly, face to face? Or just accept that he probably doesn't want to see me again? Cause he confused me a lot.TL;DR my boyfriend used a dating site for a month, just for flirting, while hiding it from me. He lost the spark and wanted to break up. When I decided to leave he proved to me how much he cares and loves me and confused me badly. Now I'm trying to decide whether to go back or just end it.