When Your Icons Hook Up, Publicly
Lou Reed and Laurie Anderson are key figures in my personal journey. They are/were both absolute icons for me, people who showed me there was a horizon beyond the one I could see. So I've been fascinated by their relationship, ever since they hooked up when they were 50+ years old. This is an essay by LA talking about their relationship, I'd be interested in hearing other people's perspective on it.
Key passages for me...
> ...we spent a happy afternoon looking at amps and cables and shop-talking electronics. I had no idea this was meant to be a date, but when we went for coffee after that, he said, “Would you like to see a movie?” Sure. “And then after that, dinner?” OK. “And then we can take a walk?” “Um . . .” From then on we were never really apart.
> Like many couples, we each constructed ways to be – strategies, and sometimes compromises, that would enable us to be part of a pair. Sometimes we lost a bit more than we were able to give, or gave up way too much, or felt abandoned. Sometimes we got really angry. But even when I was mad, I was never bored. We learned to forgive each other. And somehow, for 21 years, we tangled our minds and hearts together.
> I guess there are lots of ways to get married. Some people marry someone they hardly know – which can work out, too. When you marry your best friend of many years, there should be another name for it. But the thing that surprised me about getting married was the way it altered time. And also the way it added a tenderness that was somehow completely new.
Submitted October 13, 2019 at 12:10AM
Lou Reed and Laurie Anderson are key figures in my personal journey. They are/were both absolute icons for me, people who showed me there was a horizon beyond the one I could see. So I've been fascinated by their relationship, ever since they hooked up when they were 50+ years old. This is an essay by LA talking about their relationship, I'd be interested in hearing other people's perspective on it.https://ift.tt/35n7J1Y passages for me...> ...we spent a happy afternoon looking at amps and cables and shop-talking electronics. I had no idea this was meant to be a date, but when we went for coffee after that, he said, “Would you like to see a movie?” Sure. “And then after that, dinner?” OK. “And then we can take a walk?” “Um . . .” From then on we were never really apart.> Like many couples, we each constructed ways to be – strategies, and sometimes compromises, that would enable us to be part of a pair. Sometimes we lost a bit more than we were able to give, or gave up way too much, or felt abandoned. Sometimes we got really angry. But even when I was mad, I was never bored. We learned to forgive each other. And somehow, for 21 years, we tangled our minds and hearts together.> I guess there are lots of ways to get married. Some people marry someone they hardly know – which can work out, too. When you marry your best friend of many years, there should be another name for it. But the thing that surprised me about getting married was the way it altered time. And also the way it added a tenderness that was somehow completely new.
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